Family Law

Family Law

“Is There Another Me? How Online DNA Websites are Helping Adoptees Learn About Their History and Connect with Relatives”

DNA testing, including through websites such as 23andme.com, has become increasingly popular in recent years for individuals to obtain comprehensive ancestry breakdown, personalized health insights and more. 23 and Me is one of the programs that offers DNA testing through collection of saliva, to test both health and ancestry. Results include insights into health predispositions, carrier status, wellness, and ancestry composition, including tools to enable an individual to connect with relatives who share similar DNA. These testing programs were not always available, and in prior years, adopted individuals had no means by which they could obtain essential information such as medical background and genetic history. The documentary, Three Identical Strangers depicts the story of three identical triplets reuniting in 1980, simply by happenstance. Robert Shafran was beginning his sophomore year of college when students on campus began referring to him as “Eddy.” After lots of confusion and discussion with those referring to him as “Eddy,” Robert discovered he had an identical twin brother, Edward Galland.  When local news outlets began publishing this story, photographs of Eddy and Bobby caught people’s attention, including a woman who recognized her friend David Kellman, identical brother number three. However, what starts as a fairytale story quickly turns dark, depicting the struggle of adoptees and the lack of information they have as to their physical and psychological background. In 1995, after a long struggle with mental illness (specifically, manic depression), Eddy committed suicide. As their story continues to unfold throughout this documentary, viewers learn that the triplets' biological mother suffered immensely from mental health challenges, something that they would have been aware of had they received any information on their birth mother and their biological background. Bobby and David have since pursued the unsealing of their adoption records, but, due to confidentiality laws, access to these records is extremely limited, with a high threshold showing required to obtain even the most minimal, basic information. This film, which was released nationwide on July 13, 2018, left a lot of lingering questions surrounding psychology, science, legislation, and adoptees' rights. Stay tuned in the coming weeks for more on state-specific laws and legislation for change. For more information on Three Identical Strangers, please visit Three Identical Strangers Trailer - YouTube

April 4, 2023

So, you’re thinking about a Prenup Agreement

More and more couples and considering entering into a prenuptial agreement before marriage. It’s often concerning that even the mention of exploring an agreement would be detrimental to the relationship. The parties are basically negotiating what would happen should there be a divorce, which can cause a great deal of stress, especially if the discussions are near the wedding date. The divorce rate is generally understood to be 50%, no matter where the parties live, or what their social or economic status may be. A prenuptial agreement is a written agreement where an engaged couple considers what would happen upon separation or divorce, which may happen, if it does, at any time during the marriage. The uncertainty of when a separation may take place creates a great deal of anxiety. What if the parties separated in a few years, vis-a-vis after many years, and potentially when the parties have children? Experts suggest that since finances often contribute to conflict in marriages and may often be the reason for separation and divorce, discussing the financial aspects of an agreement may be helpful in that it may promote a foundation for a better relationship. Here are crucial requirements: Give a great deal of thought to what your goals are and what you want to accomplish in the event of separation, divorce or death. Both parties must be represented. There must be full and complete disclosure of assets and debts at the time the Agreement is executed. It must be agreed upon by both parties, and discussions should begin at least six months prior to the marriage to assure that each party is not under any duress. It must be realistic and equitable.

March 14, 2023

Family Law

DIY Divorces Recap

There’s a lot to be said for embracing a do-it-yourself (DIY) ethos. DIYers develop useful skills, sometimes discover new hobbies, and often save a great deal of money. But while plenty of DIY projects can reduce upfront costs and bring personal fulfillment, there are some things you should never, ever do yourself. Giving your house a fresh coat of paint? Go for it! Brewing beer in your garage? Sure—why not? Handling your own divorce proceedings? Not a great idea. Looking to handle a divorce or another family legal matter in the best way possible? Don’t rely on a simple document retrieval service. Offit Kurman’s Family Law attorneys are dedicated to resolving conflicts and protecting your and your family’s interests in a fast, straightforward, and cost-effective manner. See for yourself what we can do for you.

February 13, 2023

Family Law

What is Dissipation and How Does the Court Handle It?

Under Maryland Law, and in most jurisdictions, dissipation is the expenditure of marital assets for the principal purpose of reducing the funds available for equitable distribution. It usually occurs when one spouse uses marital property for their own benefit for a purpose unrelated to the marriage at a time when the marriage is undergoing an "irreconcilable breakdown."' The Courts generally do not find dissipation when marital funds are used to pay attorneys' fees. Usually, dissipation is found when one party uses marital funds for things like: a prostitute, gifts for a paramour, or extravagance far more than what would be normal family expenses. The burden of proof in most jurisdictions, both expenditures themselves, as well as the persuasion that the funds were used in a manner that deprived the other spouse in such a way that the court may make that determination, lies with the party making the allegation of dissipation. Generally, the court has great discretion in making that determination.

January 13, 2023

Family Law

My Spouse is an Alcoholic. How Will This Impact My Custody Case?

The goal is to keep the children safe while still maintaining a relationship with their alcoholic parent.  Ideally, both parents and their attorneys are on the same page with implementing safety precautions for the sake of the children.  These may include the alcoholic parent enrolling into a sobriety program and maintaining a treatment plan for sobriety through therapy, support groups, etc.  Subscribing to a live-time breathalyzer like Soberlink to ensure they are sober while the children are in their care is another helpful tool.  Some parents have interlock devices on their vehicles to avoid driving while intoxicated.  The age of the child(ren) is also a factor.  As children get older, they can call 911 should they need help, but younger children are at more risk with an alcoholic parent because they can’t simply call for help. If the alcoholic is in denial, things get more complex, and you will need to strategize with your lawyer how to best protect the child(ren). The goal is not to punish the alcoholic but to keep the children physically and emotionally safe.

January 11, 2023

Family Law

New D.C. Law Will Remove Divorce Waiting Requirements

The Council of the District of Columbia has passed a law that will eliminate the requirement that spouses live separate and apart without cohabitation before filing for divorce. On December 3, 2023, the Council passed D.C. Act 25-322, which deletes from the D.C. Code the requirement that spouses either be separated for six months if the separation is mutual and voluntary or for one year if the separation is not mutual and voluntary. The bill is awaiting congressional review and should be approved in early 2024. After the bill is approved by Congress, parties seeking divorce need only establish that they no longer wish to remain married. The new legislation is significant because it will allow parties to seek court intervention immediately rather than having to wait six months or a year before filing for divorce. D.C. Act 25-322 is also significant because it adds a new requirement that the Court take into consideration the history of physical, emotional, and financial abuse by one party against the other in awarding alimony and distributing marital property and debt. Finally, the legislation adds a provision to the D.C. Code that gives the court discretion to award exclusive use of the family home or any other dwelling unit available for use as a residence while the divorce case is pending. A copy of D.C. Act 25-322 is available online at B25-0042 – Grounds for Divorce, Legal Separation, and Annulment Amendment Act of 2023 (dccouncil.gov).

December 18, 2022

Family Law

Kim Kardashian and Kanye West settlement: is $200,000 a Month in Child Support Reasonable?

Child support is an obligation established by the Court to ensure that both parents, regardless of their relationship with each other, financially support their children to the best of their ability. Alternatively, as did Kim and Ye, the parties are permitted to agree to a number so long as it comports with the State specific guidelines. Depending on the State in which the children reside, the Court will use State specific guidelines and formulas to calculate a parent’s basic child support obligation. While the guidelines provide a presumptive amount of child support for parties with a combined net income that falls within the guidelines, most States provide exceptions for parents with extreme income (high or low). High net worth child support cases are more complicated and involve consideration of all expenses of the child(ren) in light of the parents’ extreme income (i.e., high incomes exceeding the guidelines). In New Jersey, the parties’ respective incomes are subject to a formulaic calculation and consideration of the factors set forth in N.J.S.A. 2A:34-23(a). The New Jersey Rules of Court Appendix IX-A, Considerations in the Use of Child Support Guidelines defines extreme parental income as a combined after-tax income in excess of $187,200 annually. In such circumstances, the Court is obligated to supplement the basic child support amount after consideration of the aforementioned factors. In New York, the parties’ respective incomes are subject to a formulaic calculation pursuant to the Child Support Standards Act [DRL §240, FCA §413] to determine the presumptively correct child support obligation. The C.S.S.A. applies up to the applicable combined income cap. Effective March 1, 2022, the income cap for child support calculations was set at a combined income of $163,000 (not adjusted for Federal or State income taxes). This income cap is subject to an adjustment every two years. In New York, the Court may choose to apply the formulaic percentage to the income in excess of the cap, or it may choose to specifically supplement support based upon the above-capped income pursuant to the enumerated factors. While there is no way to know whether or not the agreed-upon monthly child support in the Kardashian matter is reasonable, in New Jersey, the Court would engage in a fact-intensive analysis of the children’s needs and lifestyle to supplement the basic child support. That is, “where the parties have the financial wherewithal to provide for their children, the children are entitled to the benefit of financial advantages available to them.” Isaacson v. Isaacson, 348 N.J.Super. 560, 579 (App.Div. 2008). In fact, “children are entitled to not only bare necessities, but a supporting parent has the obligation to share with his children the benefit of his financial achievement.” Id. at 580. However, as the Court held in Isaacson, “no child, no matter how wealthy the parents, needs to be provided [with] more than three ponies.” Id. at 584. Calculating and determining a child support obligation can be a complicated process with long-term consequences, affecting your finances for years to come. Our firm is well-equipped to handle all divorce and family law matters, no matter your circumstances. You can contact Emily to discuss your child support matter in New York or New Jersey by email at Emily.Ingall@offitkurman.com or by phone at 929-476-0046.

December 8, 2022

Family Law

Dividing Stocks in Divorce

If your spouse has stocks, they will need to be identified as marital or non-marital, valued and divided or offset with another marital asset. Public stock is simple to value.  Once a valuation date is determined, the answer lies in the market’s figures.  Assuming the stock is all marital, and the parties agree to divide it equally, I recommend the parties work with an accountant or representative from the financial institution to ensure the division is as equal as possible considering the cost basis, so one party is not left with a major tax liability. Restricted stock units (RSU) can be a bit trickier because there is no market price to look up.  RSUs are a common incentive for employees in private companies.  They are granted to employees to incentivize them to grow with the business.  RSUs do not have a value when they are granted; instead, they have a vesting schedule.  Once they vest, they have value.   The vesting schedule is important in your divorce and your jurisdiction.  For instance, if the RSUs were granted before the marriage and vested after the marriage, there is some marital component, and you may need an expert to trace the amount.  What comes up more often is when the RSUs are granted during the marriage but do not vest until after the marriage.  Some states consider the unvested RSUs marital, and some do not.  RSUs are also taxed, so that will need to be considered when dividing or negotiating RSUs. There are several ways to divide stocks in a divorce.  The spouse who has the stock may keep them in exchange for another marital asset or offsetting the marital estate somehow.  The parties may decide to divide the public stock.  The parties may agree to equally divide the net value of the stock if, as and when it vests.  Some parties agree to sell and divide the stock prior to divorcing for tax purposes.  There are many other ways to slice the stock pie, but the best option will vary in different divorce cases.  Bottom line is that stocks can become complex, and you need an attorney who knows to ask the right questions, gather the right documents, and reach out to a competent accountant when necessary.

October 31, 2022

Family Law

Can My Spouse Take My Business?

The law may differ slightly from jurisdiction to jurisdiction. Generally, businesses started during the marriage will be determined to be marital property to be divided upon divorce. If the business is a partnership or a corporation, ownership by title will be determined. Suppose a spouse owns 100% of the business because of the stock ownership or the partnership interest or because of other evidence of ownership. In that case, the Court will generally require that the business be valued, and then a determination will be made as to whether the spouse who does not have an interest in the business will receive a buyout or an offset from other assets. Business valuations are performed by experts. Often the parties will agree to use one business valuation expert as a neutral. However, in the spouses cannot agree on one valuation expert, there may be substantial variance in the opinions of the experts representing the interest of the parties. Those situations require the assistance of an attorney who has specific knowledge regarding business valuations and who has the ability to work with experts in the field. Often there is a determination of personal goodwill. In those cases, an expert may opine that the value of the business is, in whole or in part, attributable to the owner of the business. In that case, the personal goodwill will not be divided upon divorce. This determination can be hotly contested in a divorce situation. If the spouses each own an interest in a business, it is often partitioned in some way by a transfer of ownership between the spouses, with an offset for other assets or a buyout. When dealing with businesses that began prior to the marriage, the entire business is not necessarily marital. Once again, a business valuation may be hired to determine the value of the business at the time of the marriage and the current value of the business. The spouse who does not own an interest in the business may argue that the increase in value is marital and should be divided equitably or equally between the parties, depending upon the applicable statutes and case law.

October 28, 2022

Marriage on the Rocks

Marriage on the Rocks: Prepping for Your First Meeting with Your Lawyer

Rachel Mech and Emily Shank discuss how to prepare for your first meeting with your lawyer. Emily Shank, who is featured in this video, is no longer affiliated with Offit Kurman.

September 30, 2022

Marriage on the Rocks

Marriage on the Rocks: Prenups- The Good, the Bad, the Funny

Rachel Mech and Emily Shank talk prenups – the good, the bad, and the funny. Emily Shank, who is featured in this video, is no longer affiliated with Offit Kurman.

September 9, 2022

Family Law

Separation? Where Do I Start?

If you are contemplating a separation, or if you believe that your spouse is, where do you begin? Collect and preserve financial information. This will include tax returns and information regarding income and expenses, such as check registers, checking account statements and credit card statements. You will also want information regarding assets and liabilities. If you have done a loan application for a mortgage or refinance, that will be a very helpful summary. You also want to secure information regarding 401K’s, retirement and investment accounts and the like. If there is a business involved, any documentation regarding the business would be an integral part of the information you will need. Information regarding real estate. HUD-1 forms from the purchase and sale of real estate are essential for tracing. If any assets were acquired using non-marital funds by either party, that information should be provided to your attorney. Non-marital asset tracing would include funds or assets owned by either party prior to the marriage, gifts from a third party, inheritances or anything traced to those funds. Consider available funds. You will need funds to retain counsel and experts and enough funds to pay ongoing bills for at least a short period of time. Familiarize yourself with bank accounts and investment accounts that would be accessible to acquire a new place to live and other expenses for at least a few months’ time. Consider options for living arrangements. Although you do not want to move before consulting with an attorney and considering all of your options, it will be beneficial for you to know whether you can afford to remain in your current home if that’s an option. And, if you must move, what kind of residence would be appropriate for you (and for your children)? Consult with a divorce attorney. Seek referrals from trusted friends who have had divorce experiences, estate and trust lawyers, accountants, therapists, and others who can give you names of competent attorneys. You may want to consult with more than one before making the decision as to who should represent you. Always consider peer evaluations, such as Super Lawyers, Best Lawyers, and, of course, the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML). Membership in the AAML is an organization of the top divorce lawyers in the country. Both Cheryl Hepfer and Sandy Brooks are Fellows of the AAML. Make your children your primary concern. For any parent contemplating separation and divorce, the best interest of their children is of great concern. An experienced divorce attorney can give you advice regarding the process options for you to consider and can provide information that will make this less frightening.

August 24, 2022

Family Law

Should I File a Joint Tax Return with My Separated Spouse?

When it comes time to file tax returns, those of our clients who are separated but not yet divorced often ask our opinion. As with many issues, there are some benefits to filing a joint return. However, there may also be unexpected consequences. When spouses file jointly, they are each responsible for all of the reported information. Each spouse can be held responsible for tax liability, which can include interest and penalties. One concern, therefore, is whether the other spouse has had adequate withholding or has paid their quarterly tax obligation in full and on time. We do not recommend a client file jointly if they are concerned their spouse has not been honest about income or deductions. On the other hand, there are significant benefits of filing jointly, such as lower tax brackets. Filing jointly rather than filing married filing separately can save money. You may qualify for filing as head of household. You may need guidance from an independent accountant or a competent family law attorney. Concerns may include who can get certain deductions, how to divide resulting tax liability, and how a refund may be divided.

August 22, 2022

Marriage on the Rocks

Marriage on the Rocks: How to (not) Ruin Your Case

Offit Kurman family law attorneys explore lessons from the Johnny Depp and Amber Heard Trial and other ways to ruin your case. Emily Shank, who is featured in this video, is no longer affiliated with Offit Kurman.

August 12, 2022

Family Law

Mediation Tips from A Mediator and Retired Judge Sandy Brooks’ interview with Retired Judge Michael Mason

Sandy:  How long have you been a mediator, and approximately how many matters do you mediate a year? Judge Mason:  I’ve been mediating since approximately January 2019. Last year, I did just short of 80 mediations. Sandy:  Of the cases you mediate, how many are family law matters? And of the family law matters, how many do you estimate reach a settlement through mediation? Judge Mason:  Around 40% of the cases I mediate are family cases. I would estimate approximately 85% are resolved through mediation. Sandy: Do you believe your background as a Circuit Court Judge benefits you as a mediator in family law cases? Judge Mason:  Yes. I think frequently, the attorneys for both parties have a reasonable sense of where the case should settle. Often the problem is getting the clients to accept that outcome is reasonable. I think coming to the mediation with years of experience as a judge who’s seen a lot of these cases can help convince the clients the result is a reasonable one, even if not one they are particularly happy with. Sandy: What are some of the most complex family law issues to mediate? Judge Mason:  The most difficult cases to mediate are relocation cases and cases that involve allegations of abuse that are not independently corroborated. It’s very difficult in those matters to find some middle ground the parties can accept. The other difficult ones are those where the economically dominant spouse is self-employed and his/her income varies significantly from year to year, frequently taking a downturn once the divorce is anticipated. Also, those where the parties’ assets include a business which requires valuation. The valuations are normally miles apart. Sandy:  Do you have any advice for attorneys prior to mediation? Judge Mason:  Yes, always talk to the mediator and let them know what you honestly think might get the case settled. If there is a problem with the client, let them know. Also, make sure you’ve shared any important documents you intend to rely on at the mediation with the other side in advance so they have a chance to review it. Usually, the other side will totally discount any information they are seeing for the first time at the mediation without an opportunity to check it. As well, they typically resent it being given to them at the last moment, and that can affect their view of the other attorney. Sandy: Do you have any pointers for the parties to maximize their success at mediation? Judge Mason:  Be prepared. Don’t wait until the morning of the mediation to prepare your joint property statement unless there is none to speak of. Get your pre-mediation statement to the mediator in time, so they have a chance to review it and any exhibits in enough time to speak to you in advance of the mediation. Have the key documents that support your position readily available during the mediation and share them with the other side in advance. Understand the attorney on the other side is generally not your enemy or being a jerk. Their client has a very different view of the relationship, which they have communicated to the attorney. The attorney is typically acting based upon those facts, which are very different from the ones that guide you. Sandy: What are some strategies for moving the parties past an impasse? Judge Mason:  Sometimes, when the parties feel they’ve reached an impasse, I’ve found it helpful to recess the mediation for a few days/weeks. Often after the parties have a chance to get away from the immediate negotiations for a while, they will reassess their positions. On occasion, I’ve also found it helpful to offer the parties a mediator’s suggestion to help bridge a gap. I propose a solution which they are free to accept or reject. Neither party is told if either accepts the proposal unless both do. Judge Michael Mason began practicing law in Maryland in 1974. He spent ten years in the Montgomery County State’s Attorney’s office. He was the head of the Career Criminal Unit when he left in 1984 to set up a small general practice with two other prosecutors, Judy Catterton & Paul Kemp. They were later joined by a third, Martha Kavanaugh. He was in private practice for about ten years, and they did a little bit of everything that involved going to court. In January of 1994, he was appointed by Governor William Donald Shaefer as an Associate Judge of the Circuit Court for Montgomery County. He was sworn in as judge in March of 1994. He served full-time as an Associate Judge until December 2018, when he retired. He continues to sit as a Senior judge on an as-needed basis.   He served numerous rotations as a family judge during his almost 25 years full-time on the bench. He occasionally hears some matters as a family judge. Beginning in January of 2019, he began a private mediation practice and has since mediated well over 200 cases. The largest single segment of the cases he mediates are family cases, but he does a wide range of other civil cases.

July 18, 2022

Family Law

Alternatives To Court

Litigation can be scary and expensive, emotionally as well as financially. But you do not necessarily have to go to Court to resolve issues in a divorce. The first step in determining how best to proceed is to discuss your options with experienced counsel who specialize in family law. Family law is a unique area of the law, and only those lawyers with experience have the level of knowledge and sophistication to evaluate your options with you. Often, cases can be resolved by negotiation through counsel. But there are other options available, and since divorce can be complex and complicated, one should consider all of them. Mediation is often used in family law, even if the parties are already engaged in litigation. Trained mediators facilitate agreements. They do not impose their position on either of the parties. Rather, a good mediator will challenge both parties not to expect their “best day in Court.” Reality often sets in, and parties recognize the pros and cons of their positions. Mediation often leads to an agreement, which can be incorporated into a Judgment of Divorce. Many attorneys who specialize in family law are now trained to handle cases in a collaborative process. This process permits the parties to evaluate their goals and explore options in a joint meeting setting. Another option is arbitration, where an arbitrator more or less substitutes for a Judge. However, unlike in a Court situation, the parties are able to select their arbitrator, determine what issues will be presented, set time limits, and control the amount of evidence that must be formally presented. In addition, there is some degree of privacy that is not typical in divorce situations.

July 15, 2022

Family Law

When to File for Divorce in Maryland

Many people looking to file for divorce don’t know where to start or how urgently they should proceed with the filing. Some couples, in the emotionally-charged act of separating from one another, make the mistake of jumping straight into filing without considering all of their options. Generally speaking, it’s best if the parties can work things out with counsel before filing for divorce; this approach is ideal and may save them a lot of financial and emotional stress in the long run. Once a party files, the attorney’s fees tend to increase due to court-imposed deadlines, so avoiding that time crunch altogether is beneficial for everyone involved. If the parties manage to work with counsel to exchange all of the information and documentation before filing, counsel may be able to help the parties come to a resolution outside of court; if they are reaching an impasse, the next step may be to try mediation. If mediation fails and they’ve exhausted all settlement efforts, counsel may then recommend that they go ahead and file. Obviously, some divorces are messier than others, and parties cannot always be collaborative like this, so sometimes it is necessary to file immediately—especially if the court needs to quickly intervene with regards to children and custody issues. The first step when deciding to file for divorce should always be to seek the help of an experienced divorce or family law attorney. In the state of Maryland, it’s possible that certain forms must be filed days or weeks before the trial (depending on the county)—an experienced divorce lawyer should be able to help you keep on top of these due dates. Some of the forms you may need to fill out may include documents detailing your property and how each party thinks it should be divided, financial documentation, request for financial support from one party to another, and more. The many forms, as well as the varying practices of each court, can make the process of filing for divorce a little muddy, which is why pursuing divorce without legal representation can be risky business.

May 19, 2022

Family Law

Traveling with Toddlers on Planes

Here are nine tips for traveling with Toddlers in today’s world: Be prepared for dirty objects that find their way to your toddler. Bring along plenty of sanitizing wipes and keep them within easy reach. Pack at least two extra outfits as, sometimes, one is just not enough. Ask every flight attendant and gate agent you see if the flight is full. If not, ask if they can move people around so that your family gets a coveted free middle seat. Always carry a small medical kit with you – should include travel-size essentials – Band-Aids, Neosporin, Tylenol, Benadryl, and keep it in your carry-on for easy access. There may be some in the plane’s medical kit, but who knows for sure! Take loads of snacks in small containers or ziplock bags. Choose a variety to keep the little one satisfied – fruit, vegetables, pouches, biscuits, crackers, cheese nibbles, etc. There may be delays, and the stuff you can buy at the airport is expensive! Take a large scarf that you can wrap around the little one. Sometimes feeling snug as a bug helps them unwind and relax. Changes in air pressure can be very difficult for little ones, so take pacifiers and empty bottles that you can refill with water or juice supplied by the airlines to help them a bit. Stretch your legs and walk up and down the aisle. It really helps change the scenery for the little ones, and you may actually get some smiles and fist-bumps from adult passengers on the aisle. If you are traveling with another adult, send them on first to get some overhead compartment space for your carry-on, and then wait until the last minute to board with your child. It may seem insignificant, but those extra 10 minutes before boarding are treasured moments.

May 18, 2022

Family Law

Avoid the Common Mistake of Commingling Assets

In divorce cases, it is not unusual to find that a client has at some point during the marriage commingled nonmarital assets with marital assets, making it difficult or impossible to prove that the assets should be retained by the client at the time of divorce. In Maryland and the District of Columbia, assets acquired by a spouse prior to the marriage or by gift or inheritance are that spouse’s nonmarital property. Commingling of assets occurs when a marital asset is mixed in with a nonmarital asset. One example of this common mistake is when a client has funds in a bank account that existed prior to the marriage and then begins depositing funds earned during the marriage into that same account. Another example is when a spouse receives an inheritance or a gift during the marriage and commingles the inherited or gifted funds with marital funds acquired during the marriage. In those situations, the separate property can lose the quality of being nonmarital, meaning that the commingled funds might be deemed marital property and divided by the court at the time of divorce. To ensure that nonmarital assets will not be deemed marital property at the time of divorce, the best course of action is to keep them separate during the marriage by maintaining a separate bank account. It is also prudent to execute a prenuptial agreement prior to the marriage identifying which property will remain nonmarital at the time of divorce. To prove that an asset is nonmarital at the time of divorce, retaining documentation is vital. Account statements are frequently used to prove that funds in an account are a spouse’s nonmarital assets. If you have nonmarital assets that you want to remain your separate property, hold on to those old account statements establishing how and when you acquired the assets because they might not be available from banks or other financial institutions 10, 20, or 30 years later when you are getting divorced. It might also be necessary to employ a forensic expert to prove that the assets are nonmarital, depending upon the situation. Everyone goes into their marriage hoping it will last forever, but you would be wise to avoid the common mistake of commingling just in case it doesn’t.

May 16, 2022

Family Law

Consider Whether an Expert is Necessary for Your Family Law Case

In “My Cousin Vinny,” arguably one of the best movies of all time, the character Mona Lisa Vito, played by Marisa Tomei, testifies as an automotive expert in a criminal case and provides an opinion about an automotive issue (positraction) that wins the case and results in the acquittal of two young men charged with murder. Experts are often necessary in litigation to provide professional opinions on complex issues in a wide range of cases. In any family law case, one of the strategic decisions a client must make with their attorney at the outset is whether to hire an expert. The following are some of the experts that parties to a family law case should consider hiring depending upon the issues in your family law case: Forensic accountant: Investigates whether a party has hidden assets and income, traces parties’ assets to nonmarital sources such as premarital assets, inheritance or gifts, or rebuts claims by the opposing party that certain property is nonmarital or marital. Business evaluation expert: Determines the economic value of a business owned by one of the parties in a divorce case so that the Court can consider the value of the business in the distribution of marital property. Real estate appraiser: Determines the value of the marital home, vacation homes, commercial properties owned by the parties, and any other real property that may be subject to distribution. Custody evaluator: Makes recommendations as to legal and physical custody of children after interviewing the parties, third parties, and the children, observing the parties and children, reviewing relevant documents, and in some cases performing psychological testing. Vocational expert: In cases involving claims for alimony, testifies as to the ability of a party to obtain and maintain employment and the amount of income the party is capable of earning. Attorneys’ fees expert: A lawyer who has substantial experience practicing family law and opines as to the reasonableness of attorneys’ fees incurred by the parties for the purpose of obtaining an award of attorneys’ fees or opposing a claim for attorneys’ fees. Courts often impose deadlines for the designation of experts early in the case. Failure to designate an expert by the court-ordered deadline can result in a party not being permitted to have an expert testify. An expert will explain complex issues to the Court in the presentation of your case and can rebut the opinions of experts hired by the opposing party. An expert can also provide valuable advice during the discovery process, preparation for trial, and settlement negotiations. That is why it is so important to retain an expert in accordance with the court’s deadline and have the expert begin working on the case. It also helps to have an attorney who knows the expert, has worked with the expert in the past and is confident that the expert will provide compelling testimony and opinions that will be accepted by the court at trial.

May 6, 2022

Family Law

How to Manage the Expense of a Family Law Case

It is a concern that every client has, but few are willing to discuss with their counsel. So, what are some tips to keeping your fees as low as possible? You can control some of the expenses, but not all of them. What you cannot control is the reasonableness of your spouse or the other attorney. But what you can control may make a significant difference in the expenses associated with your case. Be aware of the fact that divorce cases require disclosure regarding income, expenses, assets and liabilities. The more documents you can locate and provide to your attorney in an organized manner, the better. Generally, we are seeking three years’ worth of records, including tax returns, credit card statements, etc. But it’s also helpful to provide information regarding how and when the assets were acquired. We normally recommend that our clients prepare a chronology of important events, so that we can refer to that document in the future if needed, and we will then be able to fill in some of the blanks that may arise in the future. Because tracing of non-marital funds may be a significant part of a case, documents that trace funds that are premarital, inherited, or gifts from a third party will make a huge difference in educating your attorney in a coherent and organized way. You may not know the value of all of your assets, but you can do some research that will help get the value in the ballpark. Be responsive to requests from your lawyer for documents and information. If your lawyer is looking for the information, it’s because there is a need for it. The sooner you can provide the information, the better. Be aware of the fact that most attorneys rely upon a team, that often includes a paralegal, an administrative assistant and associates. That is often to your benefit, as their hourly rates are generally lower than that of the lead attorney. Show them respect and respond to them just as you would your lead attorney. Listen to your attorney’s recommendations. It’s your case, but there may be opportunities for compromise and settlement that occur early on or later in the case. If you delay considering a resolution until the day before trial, you have incurred substantial fees and costs associated with litigation. Rely upon your lawyer’s advice. That’s why we are often called “counselors.”

November 18, 2021

Family Law

How Long Will I Have to Pay Alimony?

When a couple gets divorced, one party may need to financially support the other party in some shape or form; this divorce-specific monetary support is referred to as alimony. When a client learns that they may be required to pay alimony, they understandably want to know how long they’ll have to make those payments. In order to answer this question, it’s important to first understand that there are three types of alimony in Maryland: pendente lite, indefinite and rehabilitative. The type of alimony a party will be required to pay is discretionary to the judge. Pendente lite alimony is fairly straightforward.  Pendente Lite is Latin for pending litigation, and these are payments that a higher-earning party pays to the lower-earning party during the divorce proceedings only. The payments are meant to maintain the family finances at, or as close to, status quo as possible during the legal process of divorce. The definition of indefinite alimony is exactly as it sounds: alimony that has no specific end date. Indefinite alimony is ordered when a dependent party is unlikely to ever become self-supporting. This type of alimony is typically established in cases of long marriages where one spouse did not work outside the home for many years, or when one party is unlikely to acquire a self-supporting income due to age, illness or disability. Indefinite alimony ends if one of the parties dies, or the dependent party remarries.  Indefinite alimony may end upon modification of the court or a written agreement between the parties. Rehabilitative alimony is meant to provide support to the lower-earning party for a period of time long enough for him or her to become self-supporting. This is the most common type of alimony awarded, and it usually has an end date. In most cases, this means that the higher-earning party will support the lower-earning party while that person takes the time to acquire the necessary job training or education needed for employment. In some cases, the higher-earning party may need to pay for the lower-earning party’s education to help them become self-supporting. As mentioned, the type of alimony one pays is solely up to the judge; however, if the parties prefer to negotiate alimony amongst themselves, they may come to an agreement as to the terms, but the judge will still have to approve it to ensure that the agreement is fair to both parties. If you have any questions on this topic, please contact Sandra Brooks at sbrooks@offitkurman.com or 240.507.1716.

November 17, 2021

Family Law

What’s the Deal with Adultery in Maryland?

Adultery is a misdemeanor in Maryland, punishable by a $10 fine. It’s doubtful that a prosecutor would ever prosecute that crime, but it may have a consequence in a divorce case. So what’s the big deal? There are two areas where an allegation of adultery has a role in the family law arena. First of all, there are the emotional or psychological considerations. The one who has committed adultery may be embarrassed and may not want those allegations to appear in a pleading that is filed in Court. These pleadings are public record, and, even if no one in the press is interested, children, grandchildren, friends and neighbors may, at some time in the future, access those pleadings. The “innocent” spouse may believe that he/she has a “leg up,” and use the possibility of relying upon those formal allegations in negotiations. The allegation of adultery, however, does not have the same stigma that it did when I began practicing law, many years ago. The “legal” consequences of an allegation of adultery is that, should the case be litigated, the Court is to consider fault as one factor of many in determining both an award of alimony and a division of the marital property. Generally adultery that occurs subsequent to a separation, but while the parties are still legally married, is not nearly as concerning as an adulterous relationship that caused or contributed to the separation. Since even if proven to be true, the allegation of fault is only one of many factors to be considered. And, since that Court has great discretion in making those decisions, the impact of the fault grounds can be significant or minimal. There’s a risk, and that’s the concern/consequence that the parties and their counsel must consider.

September 22, 2021

Family Law

I Received an Inheritance – Will I have to Share the Money with My Ex-Spouse?

The answer to this question can go in two different directions, depending on what the recipient did with the money. When evaluating a divorce, most states view inherited funds as separate property, whether those funds were received before or after the marriage. In Maryland (and in the vast majority of states), inherited funds are considered separate, or non-marital property. Here is the catch, though: the designation of “separate” can change based on what the recipient did with the funds. Generally, marital property is subject to division in a divorce, while separate property is not. However, inherited funds that start out as separate property can become marital property if they are “commingled”—i.e., turned into marital property by using the money for things like remodeling the marital house, paying for a vacation, paying off bills, or other similar things that benefit both spouses. Here are some other specific examples of comingling: If one spouse inherits a house and then adds the other spouse’s name to the deed, the inherited house then becomes a comingled asset. If one spouse receives funds and then puts the money into a savings account for a significant period of time under both their name and their spouse’s names, those funds are now comingled and considered marital property. If one spouse uses inherited funds to renovate the marital home, which is titled in both spouse’s names, the inherited funds become commingled. Because comingling can happen so easily and unintentionally, some couples opt for a postnuptial agreement when they inherit funds. This is an agreement that happens after marriage, wherein the parties agree that the inherited funds used for the renovation, vacation, or other mutually beneficial activity shall be and remain the inherited party’s sole and separate non-marital property, free and clear of any interest of the other spouse. It’s wise to consult with an experienced family law or divorce attorney when one receives a large sum of money from an inheritance. Even if the recipient decides not to pursue a postnuptial agreement, being aware of what actions would be classified as comingling can be extremely helpful when deciding how to use the funds. If you have any questions on this topic, please contact Sandra Brooks at sbrooks@offitkurman.com or 240.507.1716.

September 20, 2021

Family Law

So, What About Your Personal Property - Is It Yours?

Anything that you owned prior to your marriage, that you received through inheritance, or that was a gift to you (not to both of you) during the marriage, is not marital property. It’s yours. You can keep it upon divorce, and you do not need to offset the value of those items with anything that is marital. Usually, the engagement ring, since it’s given prior to the marriage, is not marital property. However, jewelry that was purchased during the marriage, even if it was a “gift” to one party from the other, remains marital, and will be divided, or it’s value will be offset upon divorce. Although that’s the law, to be frank, very few folks fight over marital property. It is expensive to do that, both financially and emotionally. Usually there is some agreement regarding furniture, home furnishings, artwork, etc. When the parties cannot agree, there are some options for resolution. Some of the options that have worked for our clients are: flipping a coin, and the winner gets first choice, then alternating until all of the marital property on the list is divided. Another option is that one party prepares two separate lists that “equitably” divide the property, and the other party gets to choose which of the lists is his/her property. Often, the parties attempt mediation, with the understanding that if they are not able to arrive at an agreement after a certain amount of time, the mediator makes the decision, as an arbitrator, and that decision is binding on the parties. Even when the division of the property that has value has been determined, there usually remains the issue of photographs, videos, movies of the family, etc. Fortunately, almost everything can now be reproduced, so that each of the parties can retain those very important memories. The issue of the cost of reproduction must be addressed. Because it can become very expensive, the parties often agree to share most of the items, rather than reproducing everything. Again, the options, should the parties not be able to agree, may be to resort to the flipping of the coin. Because physical ownership often determines control, one should either consider removing items that have great sentimental value from the marital home that one would be devastated to lose, or take photos or a video of everything in the house, so that a list can later be made that will include all of the marital personal property. In some cases, a personal property appraiser is required to assess the value of the assets. This is especially true in the case of artwork and antiques. Best advice is to keep a record of all significant items, not only in case of separation and divorce, but also in case of loss due to fire or theft.

August 18, 2021

Family Law

The Rundown on Custody Evaluations: A Q&A

When a divorce involves children and a court-issued custody evaluation, the parents can understandably be uneasy about the process, what it will entail and how it will affect the outcome of the custody arrangement. The key to successfully navigating a custody evaluation is understanding how they work and having a strategy in place with your divorce attorney beforehand. Here are the most common questions my clients ask me about custody evaluations. Q: What is a custody evaluation, and when are they used? A: Custody evaluations are sometimes appointed in highly-contested divorces involving children; A custody evaluation is the legal process in which a court-appointed mental health expert (or chosen by the parties) evaluates a family and makes a custody recommendation to the court based on the child(ren)’s best interest. You should expect a series of interviews conducted both alone with the evaluator and with the evaluator and the other parent, and with you and your child(ren). In some cases, psychiatric testing for one or multiple family members will also be part of the process. Q: What is the goal of the custody evaluation? A: The goal of the custody evaluator is to gather data from the parties, witnesses, documents and the children themselves to ultimately render an opinion on physical custody (the visitation/access schedule of the children) as well as legal custody (decision-making authority for the children). Q: What qualifications does a custody evaluator have? A: For the most part, custody evaluators are trained mental health professionals. In some jurisdictions, the custody evaluators are psychologists, but it varies. In my local jurisdiction, the court evaluators are social workers. While psychologists can do psychological testing during an evaluation, non-psychologist evaluators cannot. Most court evaluators are not licensed to conduct the psychological testing that is sometimes needed to help the family understand and address a parent or child’s mental health issues. This is when it might be more beneficial to hire a private evaluator who can do the appropriate psychological testing, but private evaluators can be quite expensive. Q: How much will it cost to get a custody evaluation? A: Some courts have the resources available to appoint custody evaluators at no expense to the parties, which is the case in my jurisdiction. Otherwise, if the evaluation is being commissioned through a court-connected program, the fees will be determined by the court’s policy. Private evaluators typically charge by the hour, and the fees can be significant. Q: How much influence does the evaluator have over the judge’s final decision? A: It is my experience that the courts do not always follow the recommendations of the evaluators; however, the courts do like to hear what the evaluator learned from their observations, and the evaluator’s perspective can certainly sway the judge in one direction or the other. Q: Should I request a custody evaluation? A: This is a question that you should discuss with an experienced divorce or custody attorney. There is some strategy involved as to whether, or not, a custody evaluator makes sense for your specific situation, and your attorney can help you navigate that. For example, if you already have significant leverage and the judge is likely to rule in your favor already, adding another layer of complexity to the case with a custody evaluation may not be the best choice. Q: What if I disagree with my ex-spouse on whether or not to get a custody evaluation? A: If the parties do not agree on whether or not to get a custody evaluation, one side may file a motion requesting a court or private evaluator; the other side will likely oppose the motion, and the court will make the decision. If you have any questions on this topic, please contact Sandra Brooks at sbrooks@offitkurman.com or 240.507.1716.

August 16, 2021

Family Law

Why Would I Pay Alimony If My Soon To Be Ex-Spouse Has a Job?

Most people understand that when there is a divorce, one party sometimes has to pay alimony to support the other party. But the details of who pays alimony, and why, can be a bit fuzzy. I deal with divorce proceedings every day, and a common question I am asked is, “Why would I pay alimony if my soon to be ex-spouse has a job?” The short answer is: There is no formula for alimony in Maryland, so a party may have to pay alimony even if their spouse is working 40 hours a week. The long answer is that there are over 10 factors that the court has to consider when determining who pays alimony and how much. Things like the length of the marriage, each party’s income, the age of the parties, the physical and mental health of the parties, the living standards of the parties, and the cause of the breakup of the marriage are all taken into consideration—which means the court ultimately has great discretion in determining how much alimony is to be paid and for how long. Should the payee have a job, but not be able to meet their needs on that salary, the payor will likely be ordered to pay alimony to supplement those needs, or to pay alimony until he/she can become self-supporting—whether that be through additional education or more time in the work force. Of course, the payor will also need to be able to meet his/her own needs while supporting the ex-spouse. The court is not supposed to order the payor to pay more than he/she can afford, because the payor needs to be able to meet personal living expenses as well. To this point, I have experienced cases where a judge orders a payor to pay more than they can afford, which just leads to more legal fees in an appeal or motion to modify alimony. Even so, divorcing parties should be aware that the court will view alimony payments as more important than saving for retirement or going on vacation, and a judge will likely not order a payor to put away money for these types of expenses instead of financially supporting the payee. Navigating divorce and alimony payments can be a bit sticky; as always, it’s best to work with an experienced attorney to help you get the best outcome for your specific situation. If you have any questions on this topic, please contact Sandra Brooks at sbrooks@offitkurman.com or 240.507.1716.

July 13, 2021

Family Law

Should You Consider a Collaborative Divorce?

A collaborative divorce—or the legal process in which a couple enters a formal agreement to work together, out of court, to settle the terms of a divorce—can be an excellent choice for spouses who are on good enough terms with one another to be able to hash out a compromise. This process usually involves a combination of mediation and negotiation to reach an agreement. One must retain attorneys who are collaboratively trained. Courts in every state encourage couples to opt for collaborative divorce, or a similar process, whenever possible. Even when litigation is filed, most Courts require some type of mediation before a trial date can be set. If an agreement can be reached on some or all of the issues, the divorce process is generally less painful for everyone involved. In every collaborative divorce is a collaborative agreement; one of the fundamentals of this agreement is that, if the collaborative process is not successful and the parties elect to proceed with litigation, the parties are not able to continue on with the representation of their chosen collaborative counsel. This requirement is an incentive for the parties to work harder during the collaborative process, as starting over with new counsel can be both expensive and emotionally taxing. As a result, some are willing to proceed with a similar process, called an informal settlement. The informal settlement does not require a change of counsel if the collaborative process is not productive. While this is not a true collaborative process, it can proceed in a similar manner. In either event, experienced collaborative attorneys have the skills to assist the parties in creating a “win-win” situation that may allow areas of agreement that are not available in the litigation process. Generally, in a collaborative divorce, a financial neutral is incorporated into the team from the start. This mechanism provides both parties with knowledge that an independent expert is gathering the data, reviewing it and preparing it in a way that will be easily understood by all parties. The basis for trust is significantly increased when a financial neutral is involved, and that factor alone significantly impacts the probability of successful resolution. Often a coach is also a part of the team, as emotions can run high, and having someone involved who has the skills to help de-escalate the situation and assist the parties in articulating their goals and concerns in a non-threatening way can be invaluable. A collaborative divorce is just one of many options for a process that may lead to a resolution without the necessity of litigation. In almost every case, there is mediation, negotiation, and, in recent years, arbitration, which will assist those going through the divorce process in arriving at a resolution without the financial and emotional expense of a trial.

July 12, 2021