Portrait of Richard Gray

Richard A. Gray

Retired Counsel

Richard A. Gray focuses his practice on Family Law. Drawing on his undergraduate and graduate degrees in psychology, Mr. Gray is sensitive to how these feelings can affect important decisions that a client is trying to make. Knowing that divorce cannot change the past, he directs his clients to the future and helps families rebuild their lives with dignity and emotional stability. Rather than spending unnecessary resources prolonging conflict, Mr. Gray works with clients to find solutions for moving forward and maintaining civility with each other, especially for the sake of children.

Mr. Gray is an experienced litigator, yet he always looks for ways of reaching an agreement outside the courtroom. By educating his clients on the full continuum of divorce options, including collaborative law, mediation and litigation, he enables them to be in control of their decisions. Clients appreciate his one-on-one involvement with their cases and the direct access he provides. Mr. Gray listens carefully to clients’ goals and strives to achieve them. As a voice of reason, he will also advise his clients if their goals are unreasonable or will cause great harm to the parties’ relationship.

A significant portion of Mr. Gray's practice includes representation of State Department, Foreign Service Officer and World Bank employees in their family law matters.

Mr. Gray is proud to be able to say that he maintains his practice with integrity and honesty throughout this adversarial and sometimes emotional process.

    Education

    • (J.D.)
    • George Mason University (M.A.)
      • Psychology
    • (B.S.)

    State Bar Admissions

    • Virginia
    • District of Columbia

    Court Admissions

    • United States District Court for the Eastern District of Virginia
    • United States Bankruptcy Court for the Eastern District of Virginia

    Professional Affiliations

    • Virginia State Bar Senior Lawyer's Conference, Board of Directors, 2018
    • Virginia State Bar Counsel, Representing the 19th Judicial Circuit, 2017 - 2020
    • American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, Fellow (2009-Present) – Virginia Chapter
    • Fairfax, Virginia Bar Association, Immediate Past President, 2016-2017
    • International Academy of Collaborative Professionals (2009-Present)
    • Northern Virginia Collaborative Professionals (2009-Present)
    • Virginia Collaborative Professionals (2009-Present)
    • Member of the Fairfax, Virginia Bar Association-Family Law Section (2000-Present)
    • Virginia Trial Lawyers Association, Family Law Section (2007-Present)

    Recognitions

    • Named The Best Lawyers in America® for Collaborative Law: Family Law (2024-2027)

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Firm Highlights

  • Events
    AIA Tri-State Conference
    Princeton will serve as the backdrop for three days of connection, learning, and design leadership. From keynotes to tours to the Tri-State Design Awards, this year’s conference is designed to go far beyond education sessions. Kick off the week with pre-conference intensives and individual state component Design Award celebrations, followed by three days of education, inspiration, networking, and design excellence at the 2026 AIA Tri-State Conference—featuring pre-conference intensives, three keynote speakers, 25 education sessions, curated tours, an expo, spec academies, and the AIA Tri-State Design Awards—bringing together architects and design professionals from New Jersey, New York, and Pennsylvania to connect, learn, and celebrate the best of the profession. G2. Designing Secure Practices: Cybersecurity, Data Privacy, Contractual Provisions, and Insurance Risks for Architects (4:00 PM - 5:30 PM) Architects and design professionals increasingly rely on cloud platforms, BIM software, and digital tools to manage sensitive data, creating cybersecurity and privacy risks. A single incident can trigger liability claims, regulatory obligations, reputational harm, and insurance challenges. Yet many firms underestimate how contracts, insurance, and internal practices intersect during a breach. This program offers legal and insurance perspectives on cyber risk in architecture, examining liability exposure, risky contract provisions, and mitigation strategies. A cyber insurance expert will explain policy responses, coverage gaps, coordination with professional liability, and best practices for aligning insurance with contractual risk and protecting firms from evolving cyber threats. Learning Objectives: Identify key cybersecurity and data privacy risks faced by architecture firms and explain how these risks can impact professional liability and project outcomes. Analyze common contractual provisions to determine which clauses may increase exposure to cyber incidents and propose strategies to mitigate these risks. Evaluate the scope and limitations of cyber insurance policies, including coordination with professional liability coverage, to determine how a policy would respond in a breach scenario. Develop actionable risk management strategies by integrating legal, contractual, and insurance considerations to protect sensitive client and project data.
  • Blog Posts
    Law, Love, and Life's Battles: Facing Breast Cancer
    What happens to a marriage and a family when a breast cancer diagnosis changes everything? In this episode of Love Ends, Law Begins, hosts Fara Rodriguez and Stephanie Lehman have a deeply personal conversation about breast cancer, marriage, family, and the challenges that can come with a serious illness. This episode is especially meaningful for Fara, who shares her own recent breast cancer diagnosis and journey. She opens up about discovering a lump, receiving her diagnosis, undergoing a double mastectomy and subsequent treatments, and navigating the emotional impact of cancer while continuing to work and care for her family. Fara and Stephanie discuss how a cancer diagnosis can affect a marriage in unexpected ways—from changing family roles and creating new caregiving responsibilities to putting pressure on finances, health insurance, and household responsibilities. They explore how illness can either bring couples closer together or create additional challenges, particularly when one spouse becomes the primary caregiver or when the family is dealing with fear and uncertainty. The conversation also addresses the unique challenges of parenting during an illness, including how to talk to children about a cancer diagnosis and how divorced parents may need to adjust parenting schedules and responsibilities when one parent becomes sick. From navigating medical expenses and insurance coverage to balancing work, parenting, caregiving, and intimacy, Fara and Stephanie offer a candid look at the ways illness can reshape relationships and family dynamics. In recognition of Breast Cancer Awareness Month, this episode provides an honest and personal conversation about facing cancer while navigating marriage, family, and the many practical challenges that come with a serious diagnosis. In this episode, you'll hear about: • Fara's personal breast cancer diagnosis and journey • How a cancer diagnosis can affect a marriage • The challenges of becoming a caregiver to your spouse • How illness can bring couples closer together—or create new challenges • Talking to children about a parent's cancer diagnosis • How divorced parents can navigate parenting responsibilities when one parent becomes ill • The financial impact of illness and the loss of household income • Health insurance and medical coverage considerations • How medical expenses can create additional financial strain • The importance of support from family, friends, and caregivers • Balancing work, parenting, treatment, and recovery • How illness can affect intimacy and marital dynamics • The importance of supporting children through a parent's illness • Why communication and cooperation matter during a health crisis • Breast Cancer Awareness Month and the importance of mammograms