Candace Dellacona

What Dolly Can Teach Us About Caring for the Caregiver

Dolly Parton died late last month at age 80 following what her family called a “brief battle” with cancer. The worldwide, heartfelt tributes that followed focused, rightly, on her legacy not only in music, but in stories of her generosity and kindness spanning over her sixty years in the public eye. There is no doubt that Dolly will be remembered as one of the most beloved figures in American culture. Tucked inside the coverage of her extraordinary life, however, was her final year, which told a much quieter story. That story deserves its own moment of attention, not because it explains her death, but because it is a pattern that so many caregivers will recognize in themselves and may have contributed to it. The Caregiver Ignoring Her Own Health After her husband, Carl Dean, died in March 2025, Dolly spoke openly about the toll caregiving had taken on her. She shared candidly that she had been dealing with health issues of her own, which she gladly set aside while Carl was ill. In fact, following his death, she described her state as "worn down and worn out," reflecting on her grief and the toll the years of caretaking that preceded it. Dolly was not a woman without resources; she had access to the best medical care money could buy, a devoted circle of family and friends, a strong faith, and a public platform to talk about what she was going through. And still, by her own account, she put her health on the back burner and chose not to share the incredible toll caregiving was taking on her while she was living it. I think that is also a part of Dolly’s legacy, and a topic worth sitting with: if someone with every advantage can lose track of her own well-being while caring for a loved one, what does that suggest about the millions of us doing the same thing with far fewer resources, far less support, and far less room to admit they are struggling? The Pattern Isn't Rare — It's the Norm Caregiver self-neglect is well-documented: it is not anecdotal. Statistics show that nearly two in five caregivers have at least two chronic diseases of their own. Family caregivers routinely delay their own doctor's appointments, skip screenings, ignore symptoms, and allow their own chronic conditions to go unmanaged all the while managing someone else's illness, medications, and activities of daily living. The costs of ignoring one’s own care do not always end dramatically. Sometimes it is a persistent cough that is only managed by copious amounts of lozenges, or blood pressure that remains high and untreated, bone-tired exhaustion that is never named as anything more serious than "tired."  In fact, Dolly’s own language, “worn down, worn out,” is exactly how so many caregivers describe themselves, usually downplaying, always in passing, and too often without seeking help for it. What This Isn't To be clear about what this piece is not saying: there's no basis for claiming that caregiving caused Dolly’s cancer or her subsequent death. Her family cited a brief illness, and drawing a straight line from caretaking to cancer is, no doubt, a distortion. What can be said, though, is that there are millions of those of us who live it, and indeed, Dolly said it herself: she set her own needs aside for a long stretch of time while caring for someone she loved. That care and devotion left her depleted in ways she was still wrangling with when she died last week. The Lesson If you are currently a caregiver for a spouse, a parent, or a child, the takeaway should not be the ways in which you fail to care for your own health. Rather, it is permission. Permission to keep your own appointments. Permission to admit the fatigue that you are experiencing is worth mentioning to a doctor, instead of just pushing through. Permission to ask for help before you are "worn down and worn out," rather than after. Dolly Parton spent her career dazzling us with her beautiful voice, her songwriting prowess, sharing other people's stories, and giving generously to causes far beyond herself — literacy, LGBTQIA advocacy, vaccine research, disaster relief - just to name a few. After Carl died, she was honest about the one place she had not been as generous: with herself. That honesty is worth more than a cautionary tale about Dolly specifically. It should be a nudge to the rest of us, quietly doing the same thing right now, and telling ourselves that it is ok to put our own well-being aside. It probably isn't. And it's worth checking.

September 16, 2026

Estates and Trusts

Identity, Martyrdom, and Surviving the Sandwich Generation

July is National Sandwich Generation Month. For those of us “in it”, it is a time to acknowledge the nearly 70 million of us simultaneously caring for aging parents while still raising children, supporting adult children, or both. While conversations about the Sandwich Generation often focus on the practical challenges of caregiving, finances, legal documents, and time management, there is another issue that receives far less attention: the gradual shift of identity. During my recent conversation with Jonathan Fields, host of the Good Life Project podcast, we explored something I see every day in my law practice and experience in my own life. Long before the legal documents, the estate plans, and the difficult healthcare decisions, there is a deeply personal transformation taking place. The roles that once defined us begin to shift, often without our realizing it.  There emerges a realization that you are no longer simply someone's child. You have become their decision-maker. Their advocate. Their organizer. Their emergency contact. The one everyone calls when something goes wrong. And, at the very same time, your children need you in ways every bit as demanding. Younger children need your time, attention, and physical care. Indeed, our older children still need us, and often their problems become bigger, more expensive, and emotionally much more complicated. Somewhere in the middle of caring for everyone else, many begin to wonder where they went. I know I did. The identity crisis of the Sandwich Generation is rarely dramatic. It happens gradually. It is built one doctor's appointment at a time. One delayed carpool line that derailed yoga class. One PTA meeting that replaced a celebratory meeting with a client. One tension-filled conversation with your sibling that ruined date night with your spouse.  One telephone call with a health insurance company about a denial leaving you $2,500 poorer than anticipated. One appointment with the lawyer talking about dying and disability. One weekend spent cleaning out a parent's home instead of brunch with your girlfriends. The accumulation of responsibility slowly crowds out the person you used to be. Many caregivers tell me they no longer recognize themselves. The career they once loved has taken a back seat. Friendships have become difficult, if not impossible, to maintain. Hobbies disappear. Vacations feel impossible. Their calendars become filled with everyone else's obligations until there is no space left for their own. Even more confounding is that our society celebrates self-sacrifice. We praise the caregiver who "does it all." We admire the proverbial selfless daughter who smiles, nods, and never complains. We applaud the parent who always puts everyone else first. What we rarely discuss is the cost of this martyrdom. The emotional exhaustion of caregiving and being everything to everyone is not a story of physical fatigue or a time-management problem to solve. Rather, it is the gradual erosion of the parts of ourselves that provide us with a sense of self-before-caregiving eclipsed our identity. As an estate planning attorney, I meet families during moments of transition. Parents are aging. Adult children are stepping into new responsibilities. Difficult conversations are happening around illness, incapacity, and mortality. While my role is to help families prepare for the legal and logistical aspects of this transition, I learned that the legal planning is the easiest part. The harder work is bearing witness to it all and helping families acknowledge that everyone involved is experiencing change. The parent is struggling with identity and the erosion of their independence, too. The adult child is struggling with a role reversal and becoming the decision-maker. Neither role feels comfortable. The result is grief in both directions. One of the most surprising aspects of the Sandwich Generation is that these identity shifts occur during what many expected would be their most rewarding years of adulthood. After decades spent building careers and raising families, many imagine they will finally have the freedom to focus on themselves. Instead, we discover that a second chapter of caregiving is just beginning. It becomes clear that the time to focus on oneself is really just an elusive goal. This is why planning matters. Planning is not just about the documents. It is about establishing clarity before the crisis. When families have conversations early, appoint decision-makers, organize important information, and communicate their wishes and expectations, they reduce unnecessary stress during already emotional moments in the future. They avoid family conflict and even fractures. Planning cannot eliminate the sadness of watching a parent age or the speed at which your children grow up. It can, however, mitigate the chaos that often accompanies it. Equally important is recognizing that preserving your own identity is not selfish. It is essential. The best caregivers are not the ones who never ask for help. They are the ones who understand that they cannot pour endlessly from an empty cup. They make space for friendships. They protect small moments that belong only to them. They allow themselves to say no without guilt. They allow themselves to grieve, and they remember that they are more than the sum of their responsibilities. The good news is that the blurred identity of those of us in the Sandwich Generation is not permanent: perhaps that is the greatest lesson of the Sandwich Generation. We are constantly becoming new versions of ourselves. We are no longer the children our parents once raised, nor are we only the parents raising our own children. We are translators and conduits between generations. We are witnesses, preserving our family stories, lore, and history.   We are advocates fiercely protecting our loved ones. We are decision-makers, making difficult choices with love, respect, and compassion. These roles are important, meaningful, and sometimes all-consuming, but they do not have the power to replace the person shouldering these roles. As we recognize Sandwich Generation Month, I encourage you to ask yourself a simple question: Who am I outside of the people who need me? The answer may not be obvious. It may bloom and float to the surface after you take the time to rediscover interests that have been put on hold or dreams that have been postponed. Making space for that question is one of the most meaningful investments you can make—not just for yourself, but for the people who depend on your well-being. Because the strongest caregivers are not the ones who are relegated to the roles within the Sandwich; they are the ones who remember that they are their own selves first. Your identity is worth protecting.

July 16, 2026

Estates and Trusts

Why Membership in the Sandwich Generation Hits Professional Athletes Especially Hard

My trust and estate practice services multi-generational families and those in the “public” space, which includes actors, musicians, and professional athletes. In recent years, I have delved deeper into “sandwich generation” issues (a shorthand term for those of us in midlife balancing the competing demands of caring for aging loved ones while still supporting and launching our young-adult children). Three years ago, “The Sandwich Generation Survival Guide” podcast was launched to provide resources to those of us in the “middle.” It has been enlightening to see how deeply these sandwich generation issues are being felt by professional athlete clients. This demanding and dynamic phase of life for professional athletes is seemingly intensified, accelerated, and often financially magnified in ways that traditional planning frameworks fail to address for other clients. The core challenge for the athlete in the “sandwich” begins with timing. A professional athlete’s earning window is compressed, with peak income often arriving in their 20s or early 30s and career longevity uncertain at best. At precisely the moment when many athletes are earning the most, it appears they are prematurely finding themselves in the “sandwich generation,” certainly earlier than non-professional athlete clients, which typically begins in their late 30s and early 40s, as they are also expected (implicitly or explicitly) to provide for parents, siblings, extended family members, and, like many clients, their own children. This expectation creates a fundamental mismatch between short-term income spikes and long-term, multigenerational obligations. Unlike most clients who accumulate wealth over decades, athletes are frequently required to make high-stakes financial decisions quickly, without the benefit of time, experience, or perspective. Compounding this issue is the expansive definition of family that often surrounds professional athletes. Financial responsibility often extends far beyond the nuclear household to include parents who sacrificed to support the athlete’s career, siblings, and extended relatives who rely on the athlete’s success, and even broader community expectations to give back in meaningful and visible ways. When layered with the needs of a spouse, partner, or young children, the athlete becomes the financial center of a wide, and often informal network. This is the sandwich generation in its most amplified form. These pressures are not purely financial; they are deeply emotional. Many professional athletes grapple with how to set boundaries without damaging relationships, how to distinguish between one-time gifts and ongoing obligations, and how to manage expectations of others when their own income fluctuates, injuries occur, or careers end. Feelings of loyalty, gratitude, and identity are often intertwined with financial decision-making, making it even more difficult to approach these issues objectively. The result is a heightened risk of overextension, where generosity and obligation can easily outpace sustainability. Too often, these dynamics are managed informally, through direct payments, unstructured allowances, or verbal commitments that lack documentation or long-term planning. While well-intentioned, this approach creates significant legal and financial exposure, including tax inefficiencies, unequal distributions (leading to family conflict), and a lack of thoughtful asset protection. It also leaves athletes vulnerable in the event of incapacity, injury, or premature death, where there is no clear structure governing how support should continue or how assets should be preserved. Traditional estate planning models are not well-suited to a professional athlete’s reality. Estate plans are generally designed for clients with longer earning horizons, more predictable income streams, and narrower, more foreseeable definitions of financial responsibility and obligation. Professional athletes, by contrast, require planning that accounts for income volatility, public visibility, name and image value, complex family systems, and of course, the psychological weight of being the primary provider for multiple generations. A more effective estate planning approach reframes these obligations through structure and intentionality. Formal planning tools can transform informal support into sustainable systems, creating clarity, consistency, and accountability while alleviating some of the emotional burden. Thoughtful multigenerational planning allows athletes to support both parents and children without compromising their own long-term financial security, while sophisticated asset protection and tax strategies help preserve wealth in a high-risk, high-visibility environment. Just as importantly, introducing governance and financial education into the family dynamic can help manage expectations and foster a shared understanding of how resources are allocated. Professional athletes are not simply part of the sandwich generation; they often represent its most extreme expression. The convergence of high earnings, short careers, expansive obligations, and emotional complexity creates a unique set of challenges that cannot be addressed with conventional planning alone. When approached strategically, however, this period of financial intensity can become an opportunity to build a lasting, multigenerational legacy. The key lies in shifting from reactive, informal support to deliberate, well-structured planning that reflects both the realities of an athlete’s career and the broader family system they support.

June 22, 2026

Estates and Trusts

The Hidden Estate Planning Crisis Facing the Sandwich Generation

Why millions of families caring for two generations are legally unprepared for either. Across the country, millions of adults are quietly living in what has come to be known as the sandwich generation. Statistics show that one in six Americans is in the sandwich generation, supporting aging parents while also raising children or helping launch young adults. Much of the public conversation around this group focuses on the emotional and financial strain of caregiving and those receiving the care. What receives far less attention, however, is the legal vulnerability many of these families face. Many estates and trusts attorneys see a growing and largely invisible problem: a hidden estate planning crisis affecting the very people holding multiple generations together. Many people still consider estate planning something to address later in life. Yet the sandwich generation sits at the exact intersection where planning becomes essential for two generations at once. It is not uncommon for estate and trust attorneys to encounter families whose aging parents have not established even the basic vital legal documents, such as powers of attorney and health care directives. At the same time, and as a result, the adult children who are helping manage their parents’ lives have no legal authority to make decisions on their behalf. Even more striking, those same caregivers—busy raising children and supporting parents—often have not completed estate planning for their own families. In other words, the individuals coordinating care, finances, and medical decisions for everyone else are often doing so without a legal framework protecting anyone involved. A common situation involves adult children informally stepping in to help aging parents. They begin by paying bills, organizing, advocating at medical appointments, and helping manage finances. Over time, those responsibilities expand. Without the proper legal documents in place, the adult child may technically have no legal authority to act. What these adult children find, often too late, is that financial institutions refuse to discuss accounts and medical providers limit the information they can share. Important decisions become delayed and complicated, even when everyone in the family agrees on what should happen. If an aging family member or parent experiences cognitive decline before these documents are in place, the situation becomes even more difficult. Families may suddenly find themselves navigating court proceedings to obtain guardianship or simply to manage basic financial and medical matters. What could have been handled through proactive planning becomes a crisis-driven, stressful, and expensive legal process at precisely the moment families are already under inordinate emotional and often financial strain. Another dynamic frequently emerges within sandwich generation families when one sibling becomes the primary caregiver for the aging parent. Often referred to as the “caretaker child,” this person may take on the bulk of responsibility for coordinating care, managing finances, or in some cases, even housing a parent. While these arrangements are often made with the best intentions, they can create fractures within the sibling relationship as the parent grows more dependent. The opportunity for discord grows with certainty when estate plans are unclear or nonexistent. Questions about whether the caregiving child should be compensated or how caregiving contributions should be recognized, often surface only after a parent becomes incapacitated and can no longer take part in those discussions, or worse, after the parent dies. Without clear planning and communication, these issues can quickly evolve into family conflict or worse, family estrangement. Making matters worse, the caregiver’s own legal planning is frequently neglected. Many members of the sandwich generation are simply too busy managing daily responsibilities to focus on their own estate planning, creating another significant vulnerability. If something were to happen to the caregiver such as an illness, accident, or an unexpected death, there may be no legal structure in place to protect their children or guide decisions about their assets. The people responsible for stabilizing two generations of family life often overlook the fact that they remain central to their own household’s future security. There are varying studies that indicate that a caregiver can be 18-40% more likely to die before the care recipient, a testament to the necessity that the caregiver, too, must consider their own planning. The encouraging news is that this crisis is entirely preventable: addressing it does not necessarily require complex legal strategies. What it requires most is starting the conversation early and recognizing that estate planning is no longer a single-generation exercise. Families navigating the sandwich generation need planning that considers the needs of aging parents while also protecting the caregiver’s own family. When parents have clear legal authority in place for trusted decision-makers, when siblings communicate openly about caregiving roles, and when caregivers ensure their own families are protected, the most difficult and painful conflicts can be avoided. Demographic trends suggest the sandwich generation will continue to grow as people live longer and families remain financially interconnected for longer periods. What once happened sequentially, raising children first and caring for parents later, is now happening simultaneously for millions of households. Yet the way many families approach estate planning has simply not adapted to this reality. Planning today is no longer simply about preparing for the end of life. It is about creating stability for families managing the complex responsibilities of supporting multiple generations at once. The individuals carrying that responsibility deserve a legal framework that reflects the critical role they already play in their families’ lives. The question facing many families is not whether they will encounter these issues, it is whether they will confront them prepared or in crisis.

March 19, 2026

Family Law

New York Medical Aid in Dying Will Become Law After Decade-Long Debate

After more than a decade of legislative debate, New York is poised to join a growing number of jurisdictions recognizing a terminally ill patient’s right to medical aid in dying. Governor Kathy Hochul recently reached an agreement with the New York State Senate on the Medical Aid in Dying Act (“MAID”), clearing the final obstacles to enactment. The bill, which had already passed the Assembly following a lengthy and emotional debate, will be signed into law later this month with agreed-upon amendments and will take effect six months after signing. Once implemented, New York will become the eleventh U.S. state, along with the District of Columbia, to codify medical aid in dying for eligible terminally ill adults. Overview of the Medical Aid in Dying Act The MAID Act permits mentally competent adults diagnosed with a terminal illness and a prognosis of six months or less to receive a prescription for life-ending medication. Eligibility is conditioned on strict procedural safeguards designed to ensure voluntariness, capacity, and the absence of coercion. A qualifying patient must personally request medical aid in dying both in writing and orally. Two physicians must independently confirm the terminal diagnosis, prognosis, and the patient’s capacity to make an informed decision. While terminal diagnosis and prognosis are generally clinical determinations, assessments of capacity have historically been among the most contested issues in New York health care and elder law. The law also requires that the request be witnessed by two individuals. Certain parties are expressly prohibited from serving as witnesses, including relatives, individuals entitled to inherit from the patient, health care facility employees, treating physicians, and the patient’s health care proxy or agent under a power of attorney. Additional Guardrails Agreed Upon by the Governor and Legislature As originally passed, the MAID Act included multiple protections for patients and health care providers, including provisions ensuring that participation is voluntary for both physicians and religiously affiliated institutions. As part of the Governor’s agreement with legislative leadership, a series of additional guardrails will be enacted to further safeguard patient autonomy and ensure responsible implementation. These additional protections include a mandatory five-day waiting period between the issuance and filling of a prescription for life-ending medication and a requirement that a patient’s oral request be recorded by video or audio. The agreement also mandates a mental health evaluation by a licensed psychologist or psychiatrist for all patients seeking medical aid in dying. To further guard against undue influence, the law will prohibit anyone who may benefit financially from a patient’s death from serving as a witness or interpreter to the oral request. Medical aid in dying will be limited to New York residents, and the initial physician evaluation must be conducted in person. Religiously oriented home hospice providers will be permitted to opt out of offering medical aid in dying altogether. The agreement also clarifies enforcement, specifying that violations of the statute constitute professional misconduct under the New York Education Law. The six-month delayed effective date is intended to give the Department of Health time to promulgate implementing regulations and allow healthcare facilities to develop compliant policies, procedures, and staff training. Implications and Ongoing Debate Supporters of the MAID Act argue that it provides a compassionate option for terminally ill individuals seeking autonomy and dignity at the end of life. Advocacy organizations point to polling indicating broad public support among New Yorkers. Opponents, including certain religious and disability rights groups, continue to raise concerns about potential pressure on vulnerable populations and the broader ethical implications of physician-assisted death. Although enactment of the MAID Act represents a significant shift in New York law, it is unlikely to settle the debate. Questions surrounding end-of-life decision-making, professional responsibility, and the role of government in matters of life and death will continue to evolve as the law is implemented and tested in practice.

January 16, 2026

Estates and Trusts

Holiday Harmony for the Sandwich Generation: Boundaries, Delegation, and Self-Care

The holidays arrive each year with that familiar blend of anticipation, nostalgia, and — if we are being honest — a fair amount of anxiety. For members of the Sandwich Generation, that pressure can feel magnified. You are balancing end-of-year school events, office deadlines, holiday parties, travel plans, gift lists, and meal planning while simultaneously managing the medical appointments, emotional needs, and household logistics of aging parents. The season that promises joy often demands more than anyone can give. In the middle of it all, I, like most people, find myself longing for the simpler holidays of childhood, when someone else did the worrying. Yet here we are, stuck in the middle, holding together the needs of multiple generations. If this is your role, you are not failing when it feels overwhelming. You are doing complex emotional and logistical work, and the holidays simply spotlight that reality. This is precisely why remembering three core principles — boundaries, delegation, and self-care — is not just helpful, but essential. These are not indulgences or luxuries, they are survival skills. Boundary-Setting: A Gift to Yourself and Everyone Else The holidays tend to activate our instinct to say “yes”: yes to hosting, yes to attending, yes to keeping every tradition alive. Sandwich Generation members feel even more pressure during the holiday season, as they often operate with already limited bandwidth. Without firm and healthy boundaries, the season can shift quickly from meaningful to unmanageable. Setting boundaries does not make you less generous or less committed to your family; it can mean the difference between sustainable and not. When you clearly identify what you can realistically handle — whether that means declining to host this year, catering instead of cooking, limiting travel, or being upfront about needing to leave an event early — you are honoring your own humanity and limitations. Boundaries also spare your loved ones the silent resentment, not-so-silent commentary, or exhaustion that builds when you push beyond your limits. If set up properly, boundaries can actually improve relationships: they create predictability, reduce friction, and allow you to remain emotionally present. Saying “no” or “not this year” is not a rejection of a person or tradition; it is an act of respect for your energy, your time, and your wellbeing. Delegation: Letting Others Step Into Their Roles Many Sandwich Generation caregivers take pride in being the one who manages everything. This “can do” attitude is essential on many days and certainly comes from a good place. Trying to do all things generally reflects a desire to protect, shepherd, and smooth the path for those who rely on you. But during the holidays, the instinct to take on everything can often become unsustainable. Delegation becomes not merely practical, but vital. And despite what many fear, delegation is not a sign that you are incapable or weak. It is a sign that you recognize the importance of shared responsibility. Whether it means asking siblings to manage a parent’s appointment, inviting older children to take over part of the holiday meal, hiring someone to help with errands, or letting a friend wrap gifts, delegation strengthens your support system. Almost equally important, delegation also allows others to feel invested and helpful: family members and friends often want to contribute but simply do not know how. When you provide concrete tasks, you offer them a pathway to meaningful participation. You are also creating space for your own rest, which ultimately benefits everyone around you. Self-Care: The Foundation That Holds It All Together Pop culture often portrays self-care during the holidays as lighting a candle as you sink into a beautifully drawn bath larger than a bedroom or escaping to a snowy holiday getaway in a picturesque New England village. And while these images reflect the perfect picture, true self-care for the Sandwich Generation often runs deeper and less ideal. Images of self-care instead should be reframed to reclaim the internal resources the season tends to drain. Self-care can be simple: scheduling a quiet hour early in the morning before anyone else wakes up, maintaining your own medical appointments rather than postponing them to accommodate others, stepping outside for a walk, closing your office door for an hour, and giving yourself permission not to attend every gathering. Most importantly, self-care is not something you earn only when everything else is done. It is a non-negotiable part of ensuring you can keep caring for the people who depend on you. Neglecting yourself does not make you more devoted; it makes you depleted. When you protect your own emotional and physical well-being, you are building the resilience the holidays demand and ensuring that you can keep going when the holiday chaos is over. Finding Your Own Pace in a Season of Expectations Being a member of the Sandwich Generation during the holidays means carrying the weight of competing needs — your desire to ensure a magical holiday season for your children and your parents’ needs for care and stability, all while trying to maintain your own sense of center. It is no small task. And yet, with boundaries, delegation, and self-care, you can consciously shape a season that honors both your family and yourself. This year, allow yourself to rewrite some of the holiday scripts. Create new traditions that fit the realities of your life now. Let go of unnecessary pressure and focus on presence instead of perfection. It is possible to protect your energy, share the load, and still create a meaningful season for multiple generations — without losing yourself in the process. The holidays will always be full, but they do not have to deplete you physically and emotionally. By embracing these three principles, permit yourself to experience the season with the steadiness, clarity, and compassion you deserve.

December 15, 2025

Estates and Trusts

Protecting Aging Loved Ones from Predatory Partners

As individuals age, they often face unique emotional and financial vulnerabilities that can make them susceptible to exploitation. In recent years, I have noticed a troubling uptick in cases related to one of the more concerning forms of elder abuse, which is at the hands of a predatory spouse or romantic partner. This type of elder abuse often results in a gain of undue influence over an aging individual, leading to manipulation, financial exploitation, coerced changes to estate planning documents, and, in one case, the administration of medication to compromise my elderly client. This type of exploitation is often subtle, masked by the appearance of affection or companionship, and it can have devastating legal and financial consequences for the older adult and their family. Elder exploitation by a spouse or intimate partner typically begins with efforts to isolate the older adult from family members, long-time friends, or trusted advisors. Warning signs may include sudden changes in behavior and secrecy surrounding financial matters, and can result in unexplained transfers of money or property, or the execution of new estate planning documents, beneficiary designations, or a deed transferred to favor the new partner. In many cases, the older adult may not recognize the manipulation taking place or may be reluctant to acknowledge it out of fear, embarrassment, or emotional dependency. Legal Protections and Preventive Measures Proactive legal planning remains the most effective method to protect aging loved ones from predatory relationships. Establishing a comprehensive estate plan is essential. A plan should include a durable power of attorney that appoints a trusted and financially responsible individual — other than the romantic partner — to manage financial affairs upon incapacity. A health care proxy and related HIPAA release ensure that medical decisions reflect the aging loved one’s wishes, rather than the influence of a manipulative partner. In my practice, I encourage the use of revocable living trusts, which further safeguard the individual by centralizing the management and creating a layer of oversight for those assets. Trusts can be drafted so that a trusted individual or an adult child can serve as a co-trustee with the aging loved one, ensuring that they maintain their autonomy while not being subjected to undue influence or decisions that do not benefit them. In some instances, irrevocable trusts can offer additional protection by restricting direct access to funds and preventing third parties from exerting control over assets intended for the elder’s or their family’s benefit. When marriage is contemplated, a prenuptial agreement is vital to protect an individual’s  assets and family inheritances. Such agreements can define the financial boundaries of the relationship and prevent disputes or exploitation later. If marriage has already occurred, in some cases, a postnuptial agreement may still provide meaningful protection and clarify financial rights and obligations. Families should also remain vigilant regarding changes to financial advisors, brokerage houses, deeds, joint accounts, and beneficiary designations. If sudden or unexplained modifications occur, or if there is evidence of undue influence or incapacity, immediate legal action may be necessary. In severe cases, guardianship proceedings can be initiated to protect the older adult from further exploitation and to restore financial control to a court-appointed fiduciary. While the risks of exploitation can be significant, it is still critical to approach these matters with kindness and sensitivity to the elder’s autonomy and dignity. The goal of legal intervention should not be to limit the independence of your aging loved one, but to preserve it by preventing exploitation. Thoughtful legal planning involving the aging loved one will provide a structure that allows aging individuals to maintain control over their affairs while minimizing the risk of coercion or manipulation. Timing is Everything Once exploitation has occurred, legal remedies are often complex, time-sensitive, and emotionally fraught: early intervention is key. Families who notice signs of isolation, undue influence or financial abuse should consult with an experienced elder law or estate planning attorney promptly. A knowledgeable attorney can review existing documents, recommend protective legal mechanisms, and, where appropriate, initiate proceedings to safeguard the elder’s assets and welfare. Protecting aging loved ones from predatory spouses or partners requires vigilance, communication, and sound legal planning. By taking proactive steps — establishing comprehensive estate documents, creating appropriate trusts, and, when necessary, pursuing legal recourse — families can ensure that their loved ones’ financial security and personal dignity are preserved. In the end, these legal safeguards not only protect assets but also uphold the fundamental right of every individual to age with safety, with respect, and in peace of mind.

November 21, 2025

Estates and Trusts

The Legal Playbook for Athletes Crossing Borders

The 2025-2026 NBA season started with a bang last Tuesday night. It is reported that 135 international players from 43 countries are on the court this season. When an athlete leaves their home country to pursue a professional or collegiate career in the United States, the transition involves far more than training schedules, new teammates, and different coaching styles. It is also a major legal and financial shift. Immigration status, contract terms, taxes, and estate planning all come into play — often at once. Without the proper legal documents in place, even the most talented athlete can find their career and income at risk. The first and most fundamental step is securing the right visa and immigration documentation. Most international athletes arrive under a P-1 visa, for those internationally recognized athletes competing professionally, or an O-1 visa for athletes who demonstrate extraordinary ability in their sport. Collegiate athletes often enter the U.S. on an F-1 student visa. It’s critical that the visa category matches the athlete’s intended activities, whether training, competition, or endorsement work and that both the athlete and the sponsoring organization (professional team or university) comply with the visa’s terms. Working outside the scope of a visa, such as signing sponsorships or promotional deals without proper authorization, can lead to serious tax consequences and even more dire immigration consequences, which could jeopardize the athlete’s future entry into the country. According to Michael Freestone, Immigration Attorney and Principal at Offit Kurman, “For student athletes, the evolving rules around NIL compensation add another layer of complexity. International students on F-1 visas are generally prohibited from earning income outside authorized employment, meaning many cannot legally profit from NIL activities while in the U.S. Although F-1 students can earn “passive” income, the legal grey area with NIL activities makes such income problematic and could jeopardize the student’s status. Some athletes are exploring creative solutions, such as establishing businesses in their home countries or deferring income until after graduation, but these strategies should always be reviewed by an attorney experienced in both immigration, tax and contract law to avoid inadvertent violations.” Tax compliance often catches international athletes off guard. The U.S. tax system is complex, even for citizens, and foreign athletes are often surprised to learn they may owe taxes in both the U.S. and their home country. To avoid double taxation and other pitfalls, every athlete earning income in the U.S. should consult a tax professional familiar with cross-border income and endorsement deals. Proper withholding and filing documentation are essential to prevent crushing surprises at the end of the season. Beyond taxes, every international athlete must consider basic estate and incapacity planning. A durable power of attorney allows a trusted person to manage financial or legal affairs if the athlete is abroad or incapacitated. A health care proxy ensures that someone can make medical decisions in an emergency. These documents are often overlooked until a crisis strikes, but they help prevent confusion and protect the athlete’s interests during critical and unexpected moments. Estate planning itself is another critical piece of the puzzle. Even young athletes, particularly those signing lucrative contracts or endorsement deals based on their Name Image and Likeness (NIL) rights, can accumulate substantial assets quickly. A trust can make sure those assets are managed and distributed according to their wishes. For athletes with family members abroad, these documents also help avoid international probate complications and unnecessary tax burdens. Insurance coverage deserves equal attention. Health insurance is essential, but athletes should also explore disability insurance to protect against career-ending injuries and liability insurance to cover potential risks from public appearances or endorsement deals. Life insurance can also provide long-term planning options when the athlete’s professional sports career is long over.   For student athletes, the evolving rules around NIL compensation add another layer of complexity. International students on F-1 visas are generally prohibited from earning income outside authorized employment, meaning many cannot legally profit from NIL activities while in the U.S. Crossing borders to compete in the U.S. can be a career-defining opportunity, but it also requires a careful understanding of the legal landscape. From visas to trusts, international athletes benefit from assembling a strong team off the field — an immigration lawyer, a tax advisor, an insurance professional, and an estate planning attorney who understands the unique intersection of sports, law, and global mobility. A little preparation now can safeguard a lifetime of achievement later.

October 27, 2025

Estates and Trusts

More Than a Game:Why Young Athletes Need Estate Planning for Their NIL Assets

When college athletes gained the right to profit from their name, image, and likeness (“NIL”), a new era of opportunity began. Take, for example, the University of Texas’s quarterback, Arch Manning, with a deal estimated to be worth $5M; Miami’s Carson Beck, and Ohio’s Jeremiah Smith’s deals are reported to be north of $4M. Endorsement deals, social media sponsorships, appearances, and personal brands have turned student-athletes into entrepreneurs before they have even stepped onto a professional court or field. With these new opportunities come adult-sized responsibilities, and one of the most overlooked is estate planning. Estate planning usually conjures images of elderly retirees or high-net-worth professionals meeting with their equally elderly lawyers. For young athletes making real money from NIL deals, estate planning has become a critical part of protecting what they have built, planning for what comes next, and hopefully, building generational wealth. NIL Rights Are Real Assets A young athlete’s NIL is an intangible but very real property right. The value of your name, image, and likeness can outlast your playing career and even your lifetime. A player’s legacy lives on through merchandise, video games, brand partnerships – to name a few. Without an estate plan, those rights and the income they generate may not be handled according to your wishes if something unexpected happens. Engaging an estate planning lawyer to create a corporate entity like an LLC and then transferring that corporate entity into a trust ensures your NIL assets are managed and protected during your life and transferred to the people or causes you care about when you die - not left to be sorted out in court. Protecting Family and Future Generations Many athletes sign their first contracts by age 18. Despite their young age, it is not uncommon for athletes earning a salary from NIL to already serve as a financial resource to other family members, consider a life after their playing days by investing in businesses, and look for opportunities to give back to the communities that helped them achieve their success in the first place. Each of these reasons amplifies the need for a proper estate plan and the legal infrastructure to ensure that those commitments are carried forward and honored upon injury and death. By establishing an LLC and a trust, you can manage and protect your NIL earnings during your life, manage how those funds are used after your death, and, in some circumstances, minimize taxes. The infrastructure of a trust that holds your LLC that owns your NIL rights allows the you to appoint a trusted adult or a professional fiduciary to help manage the assets responsibly while you focus on your education and athletic career. Building a Foundation for Long-Term Wealth Estate planning not only plans for what happens after you are gone, it also maximizes the growth and preserves wealth while you are here. By thinking strategically, setting up an LLC and a trust to hold your NIL assets, you may also gain tax advantages, protect yourself from lawsuits, and prepare for life after sports. Proper planning can mean the difference between athletes who simply make money and those athletes who build a legacy. Estate planning plays an integral part in ensuring that your brand is a business, and your future is an investment. Modeling Financial Maturity, Responsibility, and Control For young athletes, especially those in the public eye, planning ahead sets an example. It shows future sponsors, teammates, and fans that you are serious about your career, your money, and your name and your legacy. In the same way you train your body and mind, you can also train your financial and legal muscles. Estate planning is part of that discipline — it is another way to take control of your story. Your NIL is more than a paycheck — it is part of your personal legacy. Whether you are signing your first deal or building a brand that will last for decades, estate planning ensures that your hard work benefits you and the people and causes you care about most. Young athletes are learning that financial power comes with legal responsibility. Getting an estate plan in place now is not just smart—it is part of playing the long game.

October 17, 2025

Elder Law and Advocacy

Guiding Families and Caregivers Dealing with Dementia: Medicare’s New GUIDE Program

If you are caring for a loved one with Alzheimer’s disease or another form of dementia, you already know how overwhelming the journey can be. Between doctor visits, medications, daily routines, and the emotional toll on the family, it can feel totally overwhelming, patching together resources and support. Medicare has finally recognized just how hard this journey is for the patient and the caregiver and recently launched the GUIDE Program (Guiding an Improved Dementia Experience). The GUIDE program was developed by the Centers for Medicare & Medicaid Services, and its purpose is to provide comprehensive and coordinated care for people living with Alzheimer’s disease and dementia, while also offering much-needed support for the caregiver, who shoulders most of the day-to-day responsibilities. GUIDE was designed to improve the quality of life, enabling individuals to stay in their homes and communities longer while also reducing the strain on families by integrating medical, social, and community resources into a cohesive plan. Instead of leaving families to figure things out alone, GUIDE now offers a way to connect you with a care team and a dedicated dementia care navigator. When you enroll in GUIDE, the program starts with a thorough assessment of your loved one’s needs, as well as yours, as a caregiver. From there, the care team works to create a plan that covers both medical and day-to-day support. Every participant in the program is connected with a dementia care “navigator,” someone who helps coordinate services and create individualized care plans, which are updated as needs evolve. That plan might include help with managing medications, guidance on connecting to community services like transportation or meal programs, or even just having someone to call when you need advice. GUIDE also includes education and coaching for the caregiver so that they can feel more confident in their caregiving role. The care team also manages transitions and offers around-the-clock access to provide guidance in moments of crisis. The best part of the GUIDE program is that it is free. To participate, your loved one must be enrolled in traditional Medicare and have a formal diagnosis of dementia. They cannot already be in hospice care, living in a nursing facility, or enrolled in certain other programs, such as Medicare Advantage or PACE. GUIDE’s focus is on people living and remaining in the community, where support is often the most fragmented and where families typically struggle to navigate a confusing array of resources. What makes this program especially unique is that it puts caregivers at the center of the care plan. Medicare has long covered medical services, but this is one of the first times it has stepped in to consider long-term care and recognize and support the unpaid family members and friends who provide most of the hands-on care. GUIDE acknowledges what caregivers already know: that supporting the caregiver is essential to supporting the person with dementia. Since the program is still new, not every provider is currently offering it. To determine if GUIDE is an option for your family, you should check with your loved one’s primary care physician or reach out to your local Alzheimer’s Association chapter. While GUIDE is just beginning, it has the potential to make a real difference for families. Instead of feeling alone in the maze of dementia care, families will have someone helping to coordinate, guide, and support. For caregivers in the Sandwich Generation who are often stretched to their limits, that extra layer of help means less stress, fewer crises, and more time to focus on what really matters: spending meaningful moments with the person they love.

October 7, 2025

Estates and Trusts

Trust Issues: Did the Clippers’ Leonard's Aspiration Deal Skirt the NBA Salary Cap?

As a trust and estates attorney for professional athletes, I was shocked when news broke that fintech start-up Aspiration owed the LA Clippers small forward, Kawhi Leonard’s personal LLC millions of dollars heading into its bankruptcy. At first glance, it sounded like a straightforward endorsement dispute. However, buried in the otherwise mundane bankruptcy filings was a “companion trust,” another name for an LLC, one that I have drafted for clients, but which has certainly raised some questions. The biggest question of all was whether the LLC was just a conduit for the Clippers’ clumsy attempt to boost Leonard’s income outside the NBA’s salary cap? The Players and the Paperwork Aspiration was founded as a banking platform invested heavily in by Clippers owner, Steve Ballmer. Leonard, a talented 10-year veteran, was already paid well by the Clippers on a max contract with the team. Then in 2022, he signed a four-year, $28 million “endorsement” deal through his personal limited liability company called KL2 Aspire. According to bankruptcy records, a “companion trust,” namely Leonard’s personal LLC, was set up to receive payments from Aspiration. That trust reportedly included a clause voiding the deal made with Leonard and any future payments if Leonard left [1]the Clippers. It should be noted that I draft LLCs and trusts for players all of the time; both can be an integral part of a properly drafted estate plan. Athletes, like all my clients, use trusts and LLCs for probate avoidance, creditor protection, privacy, and tax efficiency. In Leonard’s case, it seems that the LLC was instead drafted to function as a private channel to funnel money received from a company partly funded by the Clippers’ owner into a vehicle controlled by Leonard. The contract then tied the payments specifically to Leonard’s role with the Clippers[2]. Why It Matters Under NBA Rules The NBA’s collective bargaining agreement forbids “salary-cap circumvention”: a team is prohibited from channeling extra compensation to a player under the guise of a third-party deal. The use of a trust or an LLC to marshal assets or income does not change that rule. If the pay by a third party is well above market value for actual promotional work expected of the athlete, or contingent upon staying with the team, it still fits the bill as “compensation” and therefore a violation. It seems there is no evidence that Leonard performed any promotional duties that one would expect of a professional athlete paid millions of dollars. According to podcast host and journalist Pablo Torre, former Aspiration employees have said the marketing component was minimal. Despite the lack of service provided by Leonard, so far, the Clippers and Ballmer have denied any involvement with the generous arrangement. However, the combination of Ballmer’s hefty investment, reportedly in the tens of millions, the team-service clause, and the LLC’s transfers, provides the NBA with plenty to investigate. To be clear, the question is not whether the use of LLCs and trusts to hold players’ assets, or even income, is legal—they are—but whether this one was used as a poorly drafted device to mask Leonard’s compensation as an end-run around the cap rules. If investigators find that the LLC collected “endorsement” distributions meant to keep Leonard in Los Angeles playing for the Clippers, the repercussions will be steep, resulting in hefty fines, loss of draft picks, or perhaps even voided contracts. Until the league finishes its review, the Aspiration deal and Leonard’s LLC remain a cautionary tale to all in the professional sports world and their lawyers. Estate-planning tools like LLCs and trusts are perfectly legitimate and appropriate, but when the use of these documents intersects with team ownership and conditional contracts, these documents may look less like tools in a properly drafted estate plan and more like an end-run around the salary cap. [1] Report - Kawhi Leonard paid after Clippers partner's investment - ESPN [2] Kawhi Leonard situation explained as NBA investigates Clippers

September 18, 2025

Estates and Trusts

More Than Money: Planning for Jewelry, China, and Sentimental Belongings

When most people think about estate planning, their minds often go straight to the big-ticket items: the family home, retirement accounts, life insurance, and investments. In reality, it is almost always the personal belongings—jewelry, family heirlooms, artwork, collections, and sentimental items—that cause the most conflict among loved ones after someone passes away. If anyone followed the news surrounding the highly contested estates of Robin Williams, Aretha Franklin, or Casey Kasem, most of the strife related to the decedent’s personal property and how it should be distributed. The days of itemizing every item that you own in your Will are gone; nonetheless, it is still vital to thoughtfully address personal property in your estate plan. A well-drafted plan ensures that your wishes are clear, disputes are prevented, and your loved ones are provided guidance during a time when tensions often run high.  Why Personal Belongings Matter in Estate Planning Personal belongings often symbolize a connection to the person who died or even to an entire family legacy. While these items may not always have a significant monetary value, they often carry deep sentimental significance. Who inherits your grandmother’s wedding ring, your father’s guitar, or the family photo albums may matter more than who receives a brokerage account. Unfortunately, without clear instructions, these items can spark tension, disagreements, and litigation. How New York Law Treats Personal Property Under New York law, your personal belongings (referred to as “tangible personal property”) are part of your estate, just like your financial accounts and real estate. Unless you provide specific instructions in your Last Will and Testament, tangible personal property will be distributed under the general terms of your Will. If you do not have a Will or another estate planning document, those items are then distributed pursuant to New York’s intestacy rules. That means: If you simply leave “all of my tangible personal property” to a beneficiary, the beneficiary is entitled to keep all of it or decide how to divide or distribute those items to others If you leave the distribution to the discretion of the executor, then the executor can distribute it as equitably as possible to your beneficiaries – no easy feat If there’s no Will, New York’s intestacy laws determine distribution, which may not reflect your wishes and can lead to further discord Using a Separate Personal Property Memorandum One estate planning tool used in many states is a personal property memorandum (sometimes called a “memorandum of personal property”). This is a separate list where you detail who should receive specific items, such as a watch, artwork, or family china. In some states, these memorandums are legally binding if referenced in the Will. In New York, however, the law does not automatically recognize a memorandum as enforceable unless strict requirements are met.   That means: It is recommended that you instead list items directly in your Will, which can make updating the list more cumbersome since it requires executing a new Will or codicil in New York Alternatively, you can create a revocable trust, which permits a “pour-over” bequest in your Will to a trust. The trust must be executed and acknowledged by the parties, prior to or contemporaneously with the execution of the Will, and the trust must be identified in the Will. Practical Tips for New Yorkers Be specific in your Will. If you know who should inherit a particular item, name the person and the item directly in your Will. Work with your attorney on a memorandum. Ask your estate planning attorney if incorporating a personal property memorandum into your Will makes sense for you. Keep the list updated. Life changes and so do dispositions of your belongings. Review your instructions periodically. Communicate with your loved ones. Talking about sentimental items in advance can help avoid surprises or conflicts later. Don’t overlook digital property. Photos, social media accounts, and digital collections are increasingly valuable and should be addressed in your estate plan as well. Thoughtfully considering your personal belongings in your estate plan is not just about protecting financial value, it is about protecting relationships and honoring memories. By thoughtfully planning for your tangible personal property, you will prevent disputes, provide clarity, and ensure that the items that matter most are passed on with intention. If you live in New York and are updating or creating your estate plan, be sure to discuss with your attorney the best way to handle your personal belongings. A little foresight can bring a lot of peace of mind.

September 15, 2025

Estates and Trusts

Planning and Parting Wisdom to Consider for Your College-Bound Children

Sending a child off to college is a major milestone — one filled with pride, excitement, and, in my case, a little anxiety. Two years ago, I sent my eldest to Europe for her university experience and, while my second is staying in the U.S., she is headed south this fall. I am sorry to report to the parents sending their child off for the first time that it does not get any easier. As parents, we spend years preparing them emotionally for this next chapter. But there’s another critical aspect of preparing them to fly the nest that often gets overlooked: legal documents and related planning. Once your child turns 18, you no longer have automatic access to their medical records, financial accounts, academic records, and in some states, you do not even have the right to make decisions on their behalf in an emergency. Without certain legal documents in place, you may be powerless in a situation where your guidance, input, and authority are most needed. Healthcare Proxy (sometimes referred to as a Medical Power of Attorney) A Healthcare Proxy allows your eighteen-year-old child to appoint someone (usually a parent) to make medical decisions on their behalf, in the event that they cannot articulate their wishes to care providers. This is crucial in emergency situations.  Without this document, and pursuant to the Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act (HIPAA), medical professionals are prevented from sharing any information, even with you, about your child’s condition. HIPAA Authorization Form HIPPA protects your eighteen-year-old child’s privacy once they are legally an adult. A HIPAA Authorization form specifically allows healthcare providers to release medical information to you, giving you the ability to communicate with doctors, access medical records, and be informed in case of an emergency. Durable Power of Attorney (POA) A POA empowers you, or whomever your child names, the authority to handle their financial matters. This can include managing bank accounts, signing tax returns, handling financial aid or tuition payments, and more, either on a temporary or ongoing basis. A POA is invaluable if your child is studying abroad, facing a logistical emergency, or simply needs help managing administrative tasks while adjusting to college life. FERPA Release Form The Family Educational Rights and Privacy Act (FERPA) limits a parent’s access to their child’s educational records (grades, disciplinary actions, tuition bills, etc.) once the child turns 18 or attends a postsecondary institution. If your child signs a FERPA release form, it authorizes the college to communicate with you directly about their academic records. Many universities provide this form during orientation, but it’s important to ask proactively. Digital Assets and Passwords University students, like all their peers, live much of their lives online. From email accounts to social media to online banking and cloud storage, ensuring a trusted individual has access to these digital assets in case of emergency is often overlooked. Encourage your child to create a secure list of important passwords or use a password manager that can grant emergency access to trusted individuals. Lists of passwords should never be stored on a phone or similar device that can be accessed by those who are not the appointed trusted individuals. Health Insurance Considerations When my child attended university in Europe, we discovered that her health care would be covered by university while in Europe.  Still, we had to review her existing coverage here in the U.S., to ensure she still had coverage when she was home. It is imperative to verify whether your child will remain on your health insurance plan or if the university requires participation in a student health plan managed by the university. Sometimes the options provided by the university are more economical or make more sense if the university is far away and the plan has local coverage. If your child remains on your health care insurance, they should have at least a copy of their health insurance card. They should also understand how to locate in-network providers near campus and know the process for seeking care away from home, so that you are not stuck with a large medical bill from an out-of-network provider. Emergency Contacts and Local Resources Ensure your child’s phone has updated emergency contacts. It is recommended that named emergency contacts should be designated as such in their phone so others can assist in contacting you, if needed. In addition, make sure that your child has the names and locations of local, reputable urgent care centers, hospitals, dentists, mental health providers off campus, and pharmacies near their university. Emergencies are, by nature, unpredictable. In a crisis, the last thing you want is to be delayed by red tape. Having these documents in place not only gives you peace of mind but also empowers your child to step into adulthood with a well-prepared safety net. This is also a great opportunity to introduce your child to the concept of planning, in general, which is a personal responsibility and something to consider as they join the ranks of legal adulthood. By having these conversations now, you are not just preparing for emergencies, you are equipping them with the mindset of proactive life planning.  Providing the tools to handle their newfound independence is one of the best send-off gifts you can give.

August 19, 2025

Estates and Trusts

Obergefell in Question: Estate Planning Risks for Same-Sex Spouses

On August 11, 2025, the United States Supreme Court was asked to reconsider Obergefell v. Hodges, the 2015 decision that federally guaranteed marriage equality for all couples. This new case involves the four-times married former Kentucky county clerk who famously denied marriage licenses to same-sex couples in 2015. She argues that her religious freedom should have allowed her to refuse to recognize same-sex marriage and asked the Supreme Court to take up her cause. While many remain cautiously optimistic that marriage equality will not be undone, the fact that the Court may even consider this petition is deeply unsettling for the LGBTQ+ population and their allies. (Axios, Forbes, The New Republic) Why This Matters for Estate Planning A Return to Patchwork State Laws If Obergefell were overturned, the U.S. would revert to a pre-2015 tapestry of laws in which individual states would have the opportunity to determine marriage rights for their own domiciliaries. For those residing in more conservative states, it could mean disaster for same sex spouses. Legal and Emotional Chaos for Families Suddenly, all the rights, protections, and privileges that come automatically with marriage, such as hospital visitation, medical decision-making authority, inheritance, and tax breaks, would once again require lawyers to draft elaborate, and admittedly brittle workarounds. In some states, lawmakers are bound to make those workarounds incredibly difficult to accomplish. Estate Planning Problems MagnifiedTax implications: Without a legally recognized spouse, couples will lose spousal estate tax exemptions at the federal and possibly state levels. Probate exposure: Without the automatic transfer rules of marriage, such as tenancy by the entirety designations on deeds, estates could be forced to go through a full probate proceeding or worse, pass to next-of-kin heirs, and not the spouse. Healthcare proxies and decision-making: Health care directives, such as Health Care Proxies, would need constant updates as cross-state enforcement could become uncertain when an individual’s status is demoted from “spouse” to simply “agent” under a health care directive. It should be noted that the rights of an agent are certainly less secure than spousal rights. Children and parentage issues: The parental presumptions, adoptions, and guardianships may also be under fire and could become contested in ways they have not been observed for a decade. As with documented workarounds for estate planning, it is concerning that parentage could hinge on an estate planning document that is enforceable in one state and not another. In summary, this possibility bears a real human cost if the federal government no longer sees a marriage as valid, and all the financial ease, parental securities, medical protections, and end-of-life comfort assumed to be guaranteed are no longer. Same-sex couples do not just lose a symbolic right to marry — they face disruptions to fundamental life, health, and legacy decisions. This is not just another court case: the ramifications will fundamentally reshape how families, especially those with trans and LGBTQ+ members, plan their lives, protect each other, and preserve their legacies. It is vital we pay attention, share the facts, and act with allyship.   

August 14, 2025

Estates and Trusts

Estate Planning for Musicians and Protecting Your Legacy Off the Stage

For musicians, estate planning is not just about deciding who inherits guitar collections or song royalties. It is about protecting your artistic legacy, ensuring your intellectual property is handled according to your wishes, and providing clarity for loved ones who may be unfamiliar with the nuances of the music industry. Unlike a typical estate plan, musicians face unique considerations, especially when it comes to rights management, royalties, and long-term protection of their creative works. Whether you are a seasoned performer or an up-and-coming artist, here are essential estate planning steps every musician should take. Catalog and Protect Your Intellectual Property Your songs, recordings, compositions, and even unreleased material are valuable assets. The first step is creating a comprehensive inventory of your published works, unreleased recordings or demos, copyright registrations, licensing agreements, and publishing contracts. Ensure these assets are clearly documented in your estate plan, which means if you have a revocable trust in place, these assets must be “assigned” to that trust to avoid probate. You should also provide instructions to your trustee or executor on how these assets should be managed, distributed, and monetized after your death. Establish Ownership Structures for Royalties     Royalties can continue to generate income long after a musician’s passing. To ensure proper management, it is most efficient to set up a trust to collect and distribute these royalties to your beneficiaries.   A trust can provide the mechanism to provide ongoing support to your loved ones to ensure they receive the funds in a way that makes sense, particularly if your beneficiaries are minors. Having a trust in place can also make it easier to manage the various income streams to ensure they flow centrally during your life in the way that you intend. Certain trusts can even provide creditor protection, protection from estate disputes, and mismanagement if you become incapacitated. When a trust is created, it is important to think about who will serve as your trustee if you can no longer act, or upon your death. The trustee chosen by you should have familiarity with your intellectual property, royalties, licensing, and the value of your catalogue. Assign Control Over Your Artistic Legacy Do you want your unreleased recordings shared with the world? Should certain songs be licensed for commercials or films? It is essential that you appoint the right person with this level of discretion to answer these questions because they can determine how your music is used after your death. It is, therefore, vital to ensure that the person you assign the control has an understanding of your legacy. This person is often referred to as a “creative executor” or a “creative trustee” who understands your artistic vision and can carry out your wishes regarding issues like posthumous releases, licensing decisions, and the preservation of your work. Digital Assets and Social Media A musician’s online presence can be as valuable as their physical recordings. A properly drafted estate plan will include instructions regarding your social media profiles, your official website, your digital music platforms (Spotify, Apple Music, YouTube channels), and access to each of those platforms. You may direct whether these platforms should remain active as they were during your life, or if you would prefer that they remain active as a memorial or taken down altogether. Business Succession Planning for Bands or Labels If you own a record label, music publishing company, or are part of a band with business agreements, succession planning is critical. Ensure that your partnership agreements address what happens in the event of your death or incapacity and how ownership interests will be transferred or managed. Your operating agreements and shareholder agreements should be reflective of your wishes and must address your particular circumstance; failure to do so allows your state to determine how those interests can be transferred or managed. Plan for Personal Assets and Family Needs Beyond your musical career, you must ensure that you have a traditional estate plan in place that also addresses bequests to your family members and friends, guardianship of your children, and designations of health agents and powers of attorney. If your musical career is successful, you should consider the issue of estate tax and consult with an insurance professional for life insurance policies that could provide economic support for your family or liquidity to pay estate tax. If your music catalog has significant value, proactive estate tax planning is essential. Strategies might include gifting portions of your catalog during your lifetime, setting up irrevocable trusts to shield assets, and working with a valuation expert to determine accurate appraisals for estate tax purposes. Musicians, like most artists, often experience fluctuating incomes, so proper planning is crucial for providing long-term security to loved ones. Final Thoughts Proper planning is the ultimate backstage pass to your legacy. It empowers musicians to control not just the financial aspects of their legacy, but also the integrity and future of their creative works. Without a solid plan, disputes over rights, royalties, and artistic decisions can tarnish the legacy you have worked so hard to build.

August 5, 2025

Elder Law and Advocacy

Why Caregiving Matters More Than Ever in America

When Bradley Cooper released his new PBS documentary “Caregiving,” he didn’t just share a deeply personal narrative, he opened the door to a long-overdue national reckoning. His story of bathing his father, of holding his hand through cancer, of navigating a healthcare labyrinth with little support resonates because it is all of our stories. Whether we realize it yet or not. Caregiving is the invisible thread that holds my clients — the wealthy and not so wealthy — their families, and their communities together. This essential labor, both paid and unpaid, is finally stepping into the spotlight, demanding recognition, reform, and real support. The Growing Crisis The statistics are irrefutable: for the first time ever, Americans aged 65 and older are set to outnumber their children by 2034. Currently, 23 million care for older adults exceeding the 21 million caring for kids. It is important to note, however, that caregiving occurs at all ages and contributions. No one is immune from caregiving. Financial caregiving responsibilities can begin much earlier for a younger demographic if they are in a better financial position than their aging family members. Added to that, those who are having children later in life now care for their aging parents whom they presumed could help them raise their own young children. Unpaid family caregivers contribute nearly $600 billion worth of labor to the US economy annually, which is larger than the United States Department of Defense budget and a figure soon to hit $900 billion the next decade. Families, who represent the unpaid caregivers, absorb this enormous emotional, financial, and physical burden. As this author has written about in the past, caregivers generally must reduce work hours, give up career opportunities, or quit jobs entirely. These sacrifices lead to lost income, strained mental health, and mounting caregiving debt.  Beyond the individual cost, caregiving faces much broader challenges, including the underfunding of resources, a fragmented health care system, policy neglect, and a lack of labor protections for professional caregivers. Millions of Americans, especially women, people of color, and low-income individuals are making impossible choices: career or care. Income or loved one. Sleep or safety. And while the dialogue surrounding caregiving has traditionally been viewed as a women’s or senior issue, it is clear that caregiving now touches every demographic and tax bracket. In fact, the recognition of today’s “Sandwich Generation,” adults caring for aging parents while raising kids, has been a topic of conversation, mostly because of the extreme pressure this generation feels with its caregiving responsibilities: even Gen Z is stepping in as caregivers, often for grandparents and disabled siblings. Most fall into caregiving during a crisis — an accident, a diagnosis, or a fall. Without a plan, the emotional, legal, and financial toll compounds quickly and sometimes in ways that cannot be controlled.  Planning in advance provides options that planning during or after a crisis simply does not. The culmination of these issues leaves us all without robust systemic support, defining caregiving as a personal crisis rather than a shared responsibility. However, there is hope, and the way to hold onto that hope is through planning. Take Action Clarify wishes. Encourage your aging loved ones to clarify their wishes. Advance healthcare directives provide caregivers guidance and reduce stress of healthcare and end of life decision making. Ensure your Will or Trust is in place and up-to-date reflecting the beneficiaries chosen by the aging loved one, not by the state. Consider creating an ethical will to share with your family describing your hopes and wishes for their future and lessons you wish to impart long after you are gone. Protect assets. If your loved one’s assets are not infinite, it’s imperative to meet with an elder law attorney who can assess whether or not your loved one will qualify for Medicaid or Veterans benefits in the future to pay for long-term care. Determine if asset protection trusts can help your loved one qualify for benefits or resources in their area. If you still have time, speak with an insurance professional about qualifying for long-term care insurance. Organize roles. Nothing is more important than setting a plan in place. This means determining now who can help your aging loved one and contribute to their caregiving.  Dividing and conquering roles like organizing medication, cooking meals, providing transportation to appointments, and managing finances can help caregivers avoid burnout and ensure that talents among all caregivers are utilized. Technology is even being developed to address the need such as software like Hero Generation which can make organization for the caregiver easier.  Preserve dignity.  Talk to your aging loved one about where they want to live as they age and, perhaps more importantly, where they do not want to live as they age. If your loved one is faced with a life-limiting condition, start the dialogue about what their idea of a “good death” looks like by consulting with organizations like Befriending Death or your local hospice agency. Thoughtful planning keeps care centered around the person’s needs, values, religious, and spiritual beliefs, not just the logistics of the end of their life. As caregivers, there is so much we can do beyond providing the care. We must acknowledge the heavy lift of caregiving: talking about it with family, co-workers, and friends to create community around the experience. We must offer respite to our friends who are caregivers and vote for public policies that support and expand care. And of course, elevate the conversation and share resources to make sure that it is easier for those who come after us. Roslyn Carter wisely said that “...there are only four kinds of people in the world: those who have been caregivers, those who are currently caregivers, those who will be caregivers, and those who will need caregivers." Caregiving is love in action and planning for it is essential.  Wherever you are in your own caregiving or care receiving journey, ensuring a plan is in place is essential.

July 23, 2025

Estates and Trusts

New York Advances Medical Aid in Dying Act Amid Ongoing Right-to-Die Debate

The New York State Senate passed the Medical Aid in Dying Act this week, taking a significant step forward towards legalizing physician and medically assisted death for terminally ill patients in New York. The Bill, which had previously been approved by the state assembly after an emotionally charged five-hour session, awaits Governor Kathy Hochul's action. If the Governor signs it into law, New York will become the 11th U.S. state, along with the District of Columbia, to codify an individual’s right to die with assistance from the medical community. What is the Medical Aid in Dying Act (MAID)? The latest incarnation of the signed legislation allows mentally competent, terminally ill adults with a prognosis of six months or less to be prescribed life-ending medication. In order to qualify, there are stringent requirements. First, the patient must request assistance in writing and verbally to their physician; a measure that might be a stumbling block for those whose affliction, disease, or condition may prevent one or the other.   Once the request is made in writing and verbally, two doctors then must confirm the patient’s terminal diagnosis, prognosis of six months or less, and the patient’s capacity as it relates to being of sound mind. A terminal diagnosis and prognosis are more calculable standards than capacity, which, in New York State has always been a fiercely contested subject and, in some cases, subjective and specific to the matter at hand. The additional requirement mandates that there be two witnesses to the request to prevent any coercion. Certain individuals are explicitly prohibited from serving as witnesses: relatives by blood, marriage (even domestic partners,) adoption, any beneficiary entitled to a portion of the patient's estate, individuals affiliated with the healthcare facility where the patient is receiving treatment, as well as the patient’s care providers such as the attending physician and the consulting physician. The patient’s nominated health care proxy and agent under the Power of Attorney are also prohibited from serving as a witness. Many advocacy groups have been pushing for this legislation for the better part of a decade and argue that it finally offers terminally ill patients a compassionate option to end their life and, presumably, their suffering. However, there are groups on the other side that have been vocal in their opposition, including certain religious and disability rights organizations, which have expressed concerns that such a law could disproportionately impact the disabled community. Compassion & Choices, one such advocacy group in favor of the legislation, has repeatedly pointed out that a staggering 72% of New Yorkers support medical aid in dying and have urged lawmakers to advance the legislation that has long languished in committee in Albany.   While it is unclear what Governor Hochul will do, the fact that the state assembly and senate have reached a consensus marks a significant milestone for those who advocate for such relief. The legislation hangs in the balance until Governor Hochul's decision is made but this author suspects that regardless of her decision, the controversy will continue about end-of-life care, patient autonomy, and the role government may or may not have in a person’s life and death.

June 17, 2025

Estates and Trusts

Protecting Legacy: Privacy and Estate Planning Tips for Athletes

Professional athletes face unique challenges when it comes to managing their personal, professional, and financial affairs. With significant public visibility, substantial income, a grueling training schedule, and a fast-paced lifestyle, athletes need to protect both their privacy and their legacy. Whether the athlete is just beginning their professional career or, like many of my clients, has already cemented their place into athletic history, effective estate planning and privacy protection can shield the new or long-established professional athlete from risk and exposure, providing long-term peace of mind. Why Privacy and Estate Planning Matter for Athletes There are many reasons why privacy is more of a priority for professional athletes than those in the general public. First and foremost, athletes experience intense media scrutiny. Interviews following each event, reporters covering their personal and family lives, bloggers commenting on their lifestyle, and their family members’ every move. This scrutiny often occurs “overnight” without providing the athlete and their family the opportunity to adjust and ease into this new level of inquisition. Added to the sudden celebrity, the athlete’s career span is generally shorter than the rest of us, which means that the bulk of their earnings is realized in a very short window of time. The lifestyle change happens swiftly, and the duration is generally limited. Because of this compressed time schedule, the athlete has a short runway to transition into their new life, leaving them particularly vulnerable to lawsuits, predatory actors and financial scams. In addition to the sudden shift in assets and scrutiny, an athlete’s family dynamics can also suffer the consequences. Whether it is because the newfound wealth and fame represents a departure from their former life, which they shared with friends and family members, or because those friends and family members feel entitled to share in the of the athlete’s earnings, there is immense pressure. Therefore, creating a thoughtful, discreet plan that safeguards the athlete’s earnings is essential. Establish a Comprehensive Estate Plan As this author has covered in other articles, an estate plan goes beyond a simple Last Will and Testament. It includes a structure that provides the opportunity to manage wealth and guard privacy during the athlete’s lifetime, through the end of their career, and thereafter protects their families upon the death of the athlete. A Last Will and Testament directs how assets will be distributed upon death and names guardians for minor children, but it is not private. Wills are “published” in the court and can be viewed by anyone. A Trust can take the place of a Will because it also directs the distribution of assets upon the athlete’s death, but it is not published in court. Instead, it is a private instrument that is managed by the athlete’s designated trustee upon their death. During the athlete’s life, the trust can also manage the athlete’s assets. Trusts can hold real estate, stocks, bonds, and even NIL rights, which hold value long after an athlete’s career is over. For many athletes, we take it a step further and establish certain trusts in states that provide an extra layer of privacy and creditor protection. Proactive Privacy Protection Privacy for athletes is not just about dodging the paparazzi; it is about controlling the narrative surrounding their professional and personal reputation, in addition to safeguarding their financial information. Establishing Corporate Structures. The use of Limited Liability Companies and other corporate structures can hold real estate interests, vehicles, and investments instead of holding those assets in the athlete’s personal name. Those corporate interests can then be “funded” into a trust instrument, as explained above. Securing their Digital Footprint. The digital footprint is a new facet of an athlete’s legacy and must be considered. There are cyber companies (www.360privacy.io) that monitor on-line mentions, prevent hacking, and help remove destructive and false claims to protect the athlete’s reputation and legacy. Companies like Regal Credit (www.regalcredit.com) take protective measures to safeguard an athlete’s credit and financial assets, as well. Minimize public records – For real estate purchases, athletes can use tools like trusts and corporate structures to ensure that their names are not disclosed via public records.    Planning for the Unexpected. The average career of a professional athlete is, by any definition, short: the NFL athlete’s career hovers just over three years, and the NBA athlete’s career lasts about five years. Athletes have the added risk of an even shorter career in the event of an injury or any number of other unforeseen events. Planning now helps avoid chaos later. Insurance. Connecting with a reputable insurance advisor can be game-changing to cover injuries and disabilities if the athlete is unable to play, even temporarily. Life insurance not only covers the athlete’s family upon death but can also be an opportunity for investment strategy, particularly when income is earned quickly but for a shorter duration. Some athletes even invest in liability insurance to protect themselves from extortion attempts. In fact, Ernst and Young report that professional athletes sustained almost $600 million in fraud and extortion-related losses from 2004 to 2019, a number that has continued to climb. Pre-nuptial agreements. We all know the statistics: one in two marriages ends in divorce. Athletes are no different, and the added stressors of constant travel, a grueling training schedule, and fame can make marriages particularly vulnerable and challenging to maintain. Prenuptial agreements are a must for athletes to ensure that their hard-earned savings are protected, even in the event of a divorce. Update Your Plan Regularly An athlete’s life and financial situation will evolve over time; income levels, contracts, relationships, and even states of residence change with great frequency. An athlete should revisit their plan immediately after signing a new contract, upon injury, following a major purchase, upon marriage, the birth of children, upon retirement or when starting a new business venture. A properly created plan should be nimble and easy to update. Work with a Trusted Team As with any team sport, you should not go it alone. An athlete’s privacy and estate strategy should be guided by an experienced estate planning attorney, a licensed financial professional, a tax advisor, a security and privacy consultant, and an insurance professional. Athletes work hard to build a legacy on and off the field. By taking a proactive approach to privacy and estate planning, athletes can protect their assets, support their loved ones, and maintain control of their personal legacy.

May 30, 2025

Estates and Trusts

Essential Legal Documents Transpeople Must Update for Protection

Navigating life as a transgender individual involves critical steps toward ensuring that your identity is recognized legally and accurately, particularly in the current political climate. Updating your legal documents is an essential part of the process, especially in a world where current systems are not designed with gender diversity in mind. Updating these documents not only reflects your true identity but can also help you avoid potential challenges, whether it is at the doctor's office, in the workplace or when traveling. Below is a comprehensive list of essential legal documents that every trans person should consider immediately to ensure their identity is represented accurately: Legal Name Change One of the most important steps in affirming your gender identity is ensuring your government-issued identification reflects your gender and name. The process of a name change is different in every state. In New York, your local county Supreme Court provides an administrative form to request a name and gender marker change, which is the first step to ensure that all other government IDs can then be changed to align with your true identity. Once approved in New York, you will receive a court order to reflect your name and gender marker. A court order is not required in all states; many states have an administrative process to effectuate the change. Name Change: In New York, unless you are changing your name via marriage, adoption, divorce or citizenship, a court order is required. Once your name and gender marker are legally changed via court order, you may then update your driver’s license and begin the process of updating all other government IDs, including the reissuance of your birth certificate as discussed below. Gender Marker: In some states like New York, you can update the gender marker on your identification to reflect your gender identity. While the process and requirements vary by state, as discussed below, some states require proof of medical transition or a letter from your healthcare provider. Birth Certificate The birth certificate is a foundational legal document. The process of changing a birth certificate varies from state to state and will involve an administrative process or filing a court petition to obtain a court order or directive reflecting the change in name and gender marker. Name Change: Some states allow you to amend your name on the birth certificate without any additional steps or documentation, while others may require a court order. Gender Marker: New York allows you to amend the gender marker on your birth certificate. As of February 2025, Florida, Kansas, Montana, Oklahoma, Tennessee, and Texas are the only states that prohibit the changing of gender marker. Alabama, Arizona, Arkansas, Georgia, Guam, Kentucky, Louisiana, Michigan, Missouri, Nebraska, North Carolina, and Wisconsin all require medical proof of gender change. Certainly, many states make it challenging to amend the gender marker, but it is absolutely worth pursuing to ensure that your birth record aligns with your gender identity. Social Security Upon your legal name change you should update your records with the Social Security Administration (“SSA”). Updating your Social Security records ensures that your name aligns with your legal identity, especially for the purposes of employment, Social Security Disability or Retirement benefits, and taxes. In some states, failing to update your identity with the SSA could even result in the suspension or revocation of your state driver’s license. Name Change: You may update your name by submitting a legal name change document to the Social Security Administration, which is available online at www.ssa.gov. Gender Marker: As of the date of this publication, the Trump Administration has issued a directive to exclude the use of gender marker “X” and prevent the update of gender markers to reflect a transition. Passport Updating your United States Passport information is important for those who wish to travel outside of the country. Your passport must reflect your name and should reflect your gender to ensure ease of travel. A passport reflecting your true identity is necessary not only to leave the US but also to deal with border officials, obtain visas, and participate in immigration processes in other countries. It should be noted that an inconsistent gender marker does not automatically prohibit your travel, but it may cause complications within the United States when leaving or upon arrival in a different country. Name Change: To update your United States Passport, you will need to provide the court order or administrative ruling from your state reflecting your name and a copy of your newly issued birth certificate. Gender Change: The Trump administration has suspended issuing passports with X markers and passport renewals with differing gender markers. This directive is currently pending litigation and there has been no final determination of its legality. As of the date of the publication of this article, it is being widely recommended by trans-rights groups that until there is a legal determination and the policy is released, trans people who have a current, valid passport should refrain from attempting to renew or change it. Health Insurance and Medical Records Your health insurance and medical records should reflect your correct name and gender to prevent confusion and ensure that you are receiving the appropriate medical care. It goes without saying that doctors entrusted to provide medical care and treatment for their patients should be informed of your proper name and gender in the furtherance of health care. HIPAA requires that healthcare providers update a person’s gender identity or transition care and are prevented from sharing this information without your express consent. However, there are several legal battles brewing in states regarding the release of this information for minors and gender-affirming care. Health Insurance: You should contact your insurance provider to update your name and gender on all of your insurance records. In general, proof of a name change and gender markers are requested. Medical Records: Update your doctor, therapist, and other healthcare providers on your name and gender marker so that your medical records accurately reflect your identity. This will also help you avoid issues when seeking medical care, such as incorrect gender-specific treatments or tests. Employment Records Updating your name and gender with your employer ensures that your employer recognizes your identity at your company. Providing this updated information to your employer will avoid unnecessary confusion in official communication from your company, payroll, retirement benefits and health care benefit administration. Name Change: Once you have legally changed your name in your state, you must notify your employer so that your employer may update their records, including the name on your paychecks, your tax documents and your benefits enrollment. Gender Marker: Some employers offer the ability to update gender markers in their records, which can be important for workplace respect and to avoid misgendering. Many employers provide the opportunity for its employees to indicate their gender within office systems, such as email and signature blocks, to promote a culture of respect and affirmation. Estate Planning Transgender individuals should make sure their estate planning documents reflect their identity and desires. They should also ensure that their loved one’s estate planning documents naming them also reflect their name and gender marker changes. These documents may include: Executor, Trustee and Beneficiary Updates: Ensure that your name is properly reflected in your own estate planning documents such as your Last Will and Testament and Trust instruments. For others, ensure that the names of your chosen executors and beneficiaries in your documents are accurate and that their gender is respected in all related documents so that they can be easily identified in the probate or estate administration process. While many states, such as New York, have done away with gender terminology within official legal documents, it is important to note that others’ estate planning documents must also be changed if you were referred to in your parents’ documents as a daughter or a son and said identification no longer applies to you. Health Care Proxies and Powers of Attorney: Make sure that your health care proxies and health care appointment documentation have been updated with both your proper name and gender markers, as well as your agents’ proper names and gender markers. The same is true for Powers of Attorney, which are presented to financial institutions to gain access to your financial accounts. If an identity cannot be verified, often financial institutions will restrict access to prevent fraud and financial misdealing. Bank Accounts and Financial Documents Financial institutions require legal documentation to update your name on accounts, checks, and credit cards affiliated with the institutions. Name Change: You should provide your legal name change court order or administrative determination to your bank and financial institution to update the name on your accounts, credit cards, and other financial documents. You should also ensure that named beneficiaries on your financial accounts are updated when your loved ones have name changes. Gender Marker: While gender markers do not always need to be updated for financial documents, you may request that your gender be reflected accurately in your account details to avoid confusion. Academic Records Educational records held with universities and educational institutions must properly reflect one’s identity. Diplomas and other credentials should be updated to reflect your name and gender marker. Most private educational institutions allow you to change your records to match your name and gender identity; however state institutions will likely follow state law as it relates to name and gender markers. Name Change: You should contact the registrar at your educational institution or university to request that your name be updated on your academic records and diploma to reflect your identity. Gender Marker: Depending on the institution’s policies, you may be able to update your gender marker in school records. Updating official legal documents is a process that requires legal and administrative processes and often patience. However, it is an important step toward living authentically and without continued administrative hassle. Whether you are transitioning or you simply wish to align your documents with your identity, updating your legal records ensures that you are recognized for who you are.

February 26, 2025

Estates and Trusts

Protecting Your Family and Future: Essential Estate Planning for the LGBTQ+ Family

Estate planning is a critical part of securing the future for any family, and for LGBTQ+ individuals, it is particularly important given the legal complexities and challenges that may arise in the current political climate. There have been several legal shifts that affect LGBTQ+ families’ rights and protections, which makes it even more essential for LGBTQ+ families to ensure their estates are properly considered, planned, and protected. Below is a simple checklist of estate planning documents that LGBTQ+ families must consider to safeguard their interests, particularly during a time of legal uncertainty and inequitable policies: Last Will and Testament When one thinks of an estate plan, a will is what likely comes to mind: it is considered a fundamental estate planning document. A will directs how a person's property, whether real or personal, should be distributed after death. For LGBTQ+ individuals, a will is especially important because, without one, state laws dictate who inherits your estate and in what proportion. With only limited exceptions, state laws do not recognize non-biological family members, such as a partner or even a registered domestic partner: close friends who are more like family are not recognized in any state. A will provides clarity to ensure that your relationships and wishes are honored, regardless of your family makeup. Why a will matters for LGBTQ+ individuals: If you have a partner but are not legally married, or if you want to leave property or assets to a close friend or chosen family member, a will ensures that these individuals are recognized as your beneficiaries. It also allows you to name the person you choose to oversee the distribution of your assets. While many states require that your biological family is informed of your death and provided a copy of your will, most courts are fiercely protective of directives in a will. As a result, documenting those wishes is imperative to ensure your wishes are carried out in the way that you desire. Without a properly executed will, most states simply distribute assets to your biological family members. Healthcare Directives Advanced healthcare directives such as a healthcare proxy and living will specify both the person you wish to speak for you in a healthcare setting and the type of care you would want (or refuse) in the event you cannot articulate those wishes. The health care proxy appoints an agent who knows you, understands your wishes, will communicate those wishes, and advocate for your rights in a health care setting. The living will outlines the type of care you want including memorializing your preferences for medical treatment or discontinuance of treatment. A living will sets forth whether you want life-sustaining treatment and how you would like to be treated in end-of-life scenarios. Why healthcare directives matter for LGBTQ+ families and individuals: In the event of incapacitation, biological family members may not always know or respect your wishes, particularly if your biological family does not support your identity, lifestyle, or relationships. Naming a healthcare proxy and having a living will in place ensures that your healthcare decisions are in line with your desires, even if your family disagrees or is uninvolved in your life. Without a healthcare proxy, a family member (who may not understand or accept your relationships) may gain control over your medical decisions. Without documentation, most states allow your next of kin to make these decisions, potentially preventing your partner from being involved in your care. Nominating your partner or chosen friend provides them with the legal authority to make decisions consistent with your wishes. Durable Power of Attorney   A durable power of attorney (POA) allows you to designate someone, referred to as an agent, to manage your financial matters upon your incapacity. A POA can be tailored to the specific powers you wish to bestow upon your agent. For example, your agent can access your bank accounts, pay your bills, apply for public benefits, and manage investments on your behalf. Why a durable power of attorney matters for LGBTQ+ individuals: LGBTQ+ couples are not recognized as legal next of kin unless they are legally married and, therefore, will face complications if their relationship is not legally formalized, as most financial institutions are unable to speak with others without authority. This is especially essential if partners financially depend on one another but have separate financial accounts; without a POA in place, your partner cannot access your finances in the event of your incapacity. Having a POA ensures that your partner, rather than a biological family member who may not be involved in your life or support your relationship, has the authority to handle your finances, if necessary. Trust A trust is a key estate planning tool that allows you to manage your assets efficiently during your life and distribute your assets after your death without the necessity of probate (which is required with a Last Will and Testament). A trust also allows you to appoint a successor trustee, a person in charge of your trust assets if you can no longer manage your own trust assets. There are different types of trusts that can accomplish many goals within an estate plan, but the common theme is that assets funded in a trust avoid probate, a lengthy and expensive court process. In addition to avoiding probate, trusts do not have to be authenticated by a court or shared with your biological family members, as is the case with a Last Will and Testament. Why a trust matters for LGBTQ+ individuals: A trust can ensure that assets are passed on according to your wishes, even in cases where state inheritance laws might not recognize your partner or chosen family. Trusts can also be structured to provide for specific needs, such as the care of a dependent partner or a loved one, long after you die. Importantly, trusts are much more difficult to contest than wills, thus ensuring that estranged biological family members will not be able to easily upend your carefully constructed estate plan if they do not agree with your choices or your relationships. A trust is also a private document that others cannot access in the same way as a Last Will and Testament, which is a public document that is published in court. Beneficiary Designations Beneficiary designations ensure that your assets pass directly to your loved ones without going through probate. A beneficiary designation can be made on bank accounts, brokerage accounts, insurance policies, and retirement accounts. Relationships can change over time, and therefore, beneficiary designations should be reviewed and updated regularly to reflect your current wishes. Why beneficiary designations matter for LGBTQ+ individuals: If you have a domestic partner or chosen family members, it is crucial to ensure that your beneficiary designations align with your intentions. In most cases, financial institutions will not recognize a domestic partner or non-biological family members unless you have explicitly named them as beneficiaries on your financial accounts and policies. Beneficiary designations are also private and financial institutions are not at liberty to disclose those named as beneficiaries on your accounts after your death. Letter of Intent While not legally binding, a letter of intent can provide your loved ones with important details and intentions regarding why you constructed your estate plan the way that you did. For example, if you decide to disinherit a biological family member from an estate distribution, the reason for the exclusion can be articulated in the letter in a way that cannot be explained in the estate planning document itself.      Why a letter of intent matters for LGBTQ+ individuals: If your estate plan is one that leaves out next of kin or biological family members, a letter of intent can provide further proof of your wishes related to your estate distribution. Letters of intent can also ensure that your funeral or memorial service reflects the way you wish to be remembered, celebrating your identity and your values. Letters of intent can also be entered into a court proceeding as evidence in an estate contest to further outline your rationale for the disinheritance of estranged family members. Guardianship Documents for Children It is vital for any parent to document guardianship of their minor child in the event of the parent’s death. Documenting a guardianship designation ensures that upon your passing, your children will be cared for by the person or the people you designate, not the person that a court may choose. Why guardianship documents for children matter for LGBTQ+ individuals:  If you are an LGBTQ+ parent, establishing guardianship is incredibly important, especially if you are not biologically related to your child. In some cases, your biological family members may challenge your partner's ability to care for your children upon your death, particularly if you are in a non-married partnership. Establishing guardianship and memorializing your choice of guardian for your minor children provides clarity, protects your partner’s rights to care for your children, and safeguards the sanctity of your family structure. Estate planning is a crucial step for every individual, but it takes on an added level of importance for LGBTQ+ individuals, especially during times of legal uncertainty and political turmoil. With the right documents in place, you can be confident that your wishes will be respected and that your loved ones are protected, regardless of legal challenges or changes in administration. Estate planning empowers you to take control and secure the rights of your partner, your children, and your chosen family.

February 11, 2025

Estates and Trusts

Ethical Wills: The Heart of Your Estate Plan

When most people think of estate planning, Trusts and Last Wills and Testaments usually come to mind. I have spent my career espousing the essential tools for ensuring an efficient transfer of assets from one generation to the next, planning for taxes and incapacity, and outlining health care desires. However, the standard estate plan does not capture something equally valuable: the values, lessons, and hopes that many wish to document for their loved ones. That is where an ethical will comes in. Ethical wills, also known as “Letters of Intent, or “Legacy Letters” are non-legal documents that convey the intangibles like morals, beliefs, and reflections on your life - both the highs and the lows.    What is an Ethical Will? A traditional Last Will and Testament or a trust directs how your tangible assets will be distributed upon your death. An ethical will instead can serve as heartfelt advice and guidance to your loved ones and future generations. While it is not legally binding, an ethical will can be deeply personal and meaningful. Ethical wills are not new. In fact, there is mention of an ethical will in the Book of Genesis in the Bible and they were traditionally recited orally to family members. It was not until the Middle Ages when they were recorded in writing with the hope that the message would be preserved and shared with future generations. Do you need an Ethical Will? The short answer is no. But considering the fact that in creating a traditional estate plan, most put significant time, thought, and energy into who should inherit and in what proportion, it likely would be appreciated and helpful to share your reasoning behind how you came to those decisions, or what you hope the beneficiary might consider when living their lives and using what you left to them. Content of an Ethical Will: Values:  Leaving your worldly goods, your home, and other financial assets to the next generation is certainly important, but your ethical will might explain to your beneficiaries the values that you lived by that enabled you to acquire those assets. It can provide a platform for you to share with your beneficiaries your principles, your beliefs, and the lessons learned in doing so. Strengthening Family Connections: The event or ceremony of sharing your ethical will together can be a truly powerful experience for a family. A document containing stories, anecdotes, and your successes and failures can help family members feel connected to your story and to each other during your life or long after your death. Clarifying Intentions: Sadly, the decisions and bequests made in a traditional will or trust can be misunderstood and lead to conflict within a family – having the opposite effect that you intended. An ethical will provides you with the opportunity to explain your reasoning behind the content of your legal estate planning documents, reducing the likelihood of misunderstandings or hurt feelings. Providing Comfort and Guidance: An ethical will should be a sort of love letter to your family in which you provide words of encouragement, share the joy you felt with your loved ones, and impart wisdom and advice for their future reference.  For those with religious beliefs, many choose to share how faith served as a touchstone if a parent or loved one is no longer here. Ethical wills can also provide a great source of comfort and strength during times of grief.   Get started: The best part of an ethical will is that you don’t need to hire a lawyer to start. Reflect on Your Life.  Consider the experiences that shaped you over the course of your life. What life lessons do you think are worth sharing with your loved ones for years to come?  Tell them to “take that risk” because it served you well. Do you have hopes for your loved ones for their lives? Now is the time to share those hopes for their higher education, or creating a family in the future. Is there something specific that you want to be remembered for? If so, convey what that is and why it’s important to you. Be Honest and Authentic.  This is not a formal legal document; you should write in your own voice. The whole point of an ethical will is to be heartfelt and a reflection of you. Get personal and write it as though you are having the most heartfelt conversation with your loved ones. Do not be concerned with form, grammar, or the legality of it all. It’s ok to be vulnerable and share your failures and your regrets. Nothing is Forever.  Let’s face it, things change and because of that, you can always revise and update your ethical will. Just as I tell clients that legal wills and estate plans should be updated, your ethical will should also be updated. Relationships, net worth, health, values, and perspective are not permanent. Do not be afraid to reconsider and revise.  Sharing is Caring.  In most cases the ‘reading of a will’ is only something made for TV. With an ethical will, the choice is yours: you may decide that you want your ethical will read prior to revealing the contents of your legal will to set the stage for how your assets are to be distributed, or choose to share your ethical will during your life. Whether it is something left behind to be read after your death, or if you prefer gathering your family together to foster a discussion about legacy and lessons, there are no rules how you share.  Combining an Ethical Will with Traditional Estate Planning.  While an ethical will is not a substitute for a legal will or trust, it certainly can complement your estate plan by adding an emotional, encouraging, loving, and sometimes spiritual dimension. Work with your estate planning attorney to ensure your proper legal documents are updated and in place and consider crafting an ethical will to share with your lawyer so that they can better understand what is important to you and how to help you accomplish your goals. Creating an estate planning does not just have to be about the legality of moving assets from one generation to the next, it can be much more. Including an ethical will in your plan may ensure that your lessons, love, and legacy are preserved for future generations.

January 21, 2025

Estates and Trusts

The Ultimate Gift: Estate Planning for Your Loved Ones

When we think of holiday gift-giving, we are dazzled with images of homes adorned with holiday decor, beautifully wrapped packages tied with ribbons under an equally beautiful tree, and even cars draped with giant bows waiting in the driveway for the most appreciative recipients. Yet one of the most profound gifts you can give your loved ones is not parked in your driveway nor does it fit under a tree; it is the gift of estate planning. Ensuring your estate planning is complete, I would argue, is the most thoughtful, intentional, and responsible act that provides clarity, security, and peace of mind for those you care about most.  Why Estate Planning is a True Gift:  1. Eases Emotional Burdens    Losing a loved one is one of the most difficult experiences of one of life. Without a clear plan in place, grieving family members are left to navigate complicated legal and financial decisions while coping with their heartache. Estate planning removes the undue stress of figuring out your wishes, allowing your beloveds to focus on healing and celebrating your life.  2. Prevents Family Conflict  Unclear or contested estates are among the leading causes of family disputes. Clearly outlining your wishes in a carefully constructed estate plan, minimizes the potential for misunderstandings, disagreements, and legal battles. This proactive step can preserve family harmony during an emotionally challenging time.  3. Protects Your Legacy  You have worked hard to build your life and accumulate assets. Estate planning ensures that your legacy reflects your values—whether that means leaving an inheritance, supporting a favorite charity, or safeguarding family traditions, your wishes must be documented. More importantly, the documents must comply with your state’s requirements that govern last wills and testaments, and trusts.  4. Provides Financial Security  For families with young children, estate planning provides financial stability by appointing guardians and setting up trusts for those minor children. If you do not properly document who should step in to care for your minor children in the event of a tragedy, a court proceeding is sure to follow. Additionally, it is essential you decide who the best person is to manage your minor children’s inheritance until they are old enough to handle it themselves. For adult children, a properly constructed plan ensures that your assets are distributed according to your wishes. You should also consider how, exactly, those funds should be left to your adult child to ensure that such an inheritance matches the ability of the recipient to manage those funds.  5. Empowers Your Voice  Through advance healthcare directives and powers of attorney, you maintain control over medical and financial decisions, even if you are unable to articulate your wishes. Having proper documentation in place that nominates a person to speak for you and outlines the type of care you want spares your loved ones from guessing or making agonizing medical decisions on your behalf.  The Five Easy Steps to Provide Your Estate Planning Gift   1. Take Stock of Your Assets  Make a comprehensive list of your assets, including property, investments, savings, insurance policies, and sentimental items.  2. Choose Trusted Representatives  Identify the people in your life who will carry out your wishes. It is imperative that you choose those in your life whom you trust most to make informed financial decisions in your best interest and health care decisions that are reflective of your wishes.   3. Consult Professionals  An estate planning attorney can you help draft documents and navigate complex legal requirements. Financial advisors can assist you with maximizing the value of your estate to assist you in planning for your legacy. Accountants can assist you in determining the most tax efficient strategies that should be employed.    4. Communicate with Your Loved Ones  Discuss your plans with family members or those closest to you to ensure they understand your wishes. Opening a dialogue about such important issues can often bring clarity to your wishes and communication is an integral part of ensuring your plan is effectuated. A carefully drawn plan that is communicated in advance can reduce confusion and set expectations for those around you.  5. Revisit Your Estate Plan  Estate plans should be reviewed annually, especially when there are law changes, new presidential administrations, and updated tax policies. As I have shared before, in addition to those issues, the 5Ds apply, as well so in the event of Death (of a loved one or beneficiary),  Distance when a loved one or trusted person moves away, the Divorce of a loved one (or your own divorce,) the Disability of a loved one (or your own disability), and upon the arrival of new Descendants such as the birth of a child or grandchild. The 5Ds can really impact your estate plan.   A Lasting Gift for Generations   Estate planning is not just about the practicalities of distributing assets; it’s a profound act of love. By taking the time to plan, you give your family and loved ones the ultimate gift: peace of mind, financial security, and a clear roadmap for navigating a difficult time.  This holiday season, or any time of year, consider sitting down to create or update your estate plan. It’s a gift that will resonate far beyond the moment, ensuring that your love and care continue to guide your family and loved ones for generations to come. 

December 11, 2024

Estates and Trusts

The Key to Succession Planning: A Revocable Trust

How can you ensure your legacy endures and your loved ones are spared unnecessary heartache during a challenging time? Succession planning is one of the most crucial aspects for securing financial stability and ensuring a smooth transition of wealth across generations upon the death of a business owner. Proactive planning today can save loved ones future confusion, stress, and financial strain. Among the many tools available for succession planning, a revocable trust stands out as one of the most versatile and effective methods for securing one's legacy and preserving the value of a business. What is a Revocable Trust: A revocable trust, also known as an “inter vivos” or "living” trust, is a legal document that allows an individual, known as the grantor, to transfer ownership of their assets, including a business, into a trust for their own benefit during their lifetime. Simply put, a trust can be the proverbial bucket in which you “hold” your assets. The grantor can revise the document at any time, adding or removing assets or even revoking it entirely if circumstances change. Upon the grantor’s death, the trust becomes irrevocable, and the designated successor trustee—the person named by the grantor to manage the trust after their death—distributes the trust's assets according to the terms outlined in the trust document. Unlike a Last Will and Testament, which becomes effective only after death, a revocable trust functions during the grantor’s lifetime. It provides control over assets while simplifying asset distribution after death by avoiding the probate process required with a Last Will and Testament. Key Benefits of Using a Revocable Trust in Succession Planning: Avoiding Probate: One of the primary advantages of a revocable trust for a business owner is that assets held within the trust bypass the probate process. Probate is a public, court-supervised process that can be lengthy, costly, and stressful for heirs. During probate, the deceased’s assets, including business assets, can be frozen during the pendency of a probate proceeding. When a business is one that needs daily attention, services customers, runs a payroll, and has employees, even a short delay could mean financial ruin. With a revocable trust, the appropriate party can step in immediately to manage the business, allowing for uninterrupted operations and quick, private inheritance for beneficiaries. Maintaining Privacy: Probate is a public process, meaning the estate details—including the business assets owned by the decedent and their beneficiaries— become a matter of public record (as illustrated by the widely reported Last Will and Testament of actor James Gandolfini, published on the first page of the New York Post). A revocable trust, however, remains private, ensuring a discreet transfer of assets and protecting family members from unwanted attention, potential disputes, and estate contests. Flexibility and Control: The grantor of a revocable trust retains control over the assets placed in the trust, allowing for the addition or removal of assets as needed. Business interests, investments, and real property owned in different states can all be titled in the same trust, creating an organized structure for asset management. This flexibility allows for updates as family dynamics or financial situations evolve (consider the 5D’s), ensuring the trust remains adaptable and effective throughout changing circumstances. Protection for Beneficiaries: If you have young or financially inexperienced beneficiaries, a revocable trust can also protect their inheritance by establishing “sub-trusts” specifically for them. Simply put, the grantor’s trust can contain additional trusts to benefit the beneficiaries. These sub-trusts provide guidelines and stipulations for how and when distributions to the beneficiaries are made, providing structure and oversight. When business assets are left to inexperienced beneficiaries, these guidelines and stipulations are particularly helpful, and a trustee can be appointed who has familiarity and understanding of the business to ensure that those interests are protected. Sub-trusts are particularly useful for parents or grandparents looking to ensure that minors or financially vulnerable beneficiaries are cared for responsibly, preventing unrestricted access to valuable business assets. Incapacity Planning: In the event that the grantor becomes incapacitated, even temporarily, a revocable trust allows for seamless management of their affairs by a designated successor trustee. This trustee, selected by the grantor, can be someone well-versed in both the business operations and the grantor's family dynamics. Appointing a competent successor trustee in advance can effectively manage potential financial and administrative crises, helping to avoid the need for a court-appointed guardianship, which can be a lengthy and an emotionally taxing process. Avoidance of Disputes: A revocable trust clearly defines named beneficiaries, ensuring they receive their inheritance without being involved in the probate court process. In New York and many other states, next of kin, who may not even be beneficiaries named in the Last Will and Testament, are notified of their family member’s death and provided the opportunity to appear in court and dispute the terms of the Last Will and Testament. However, with a revocable trust, there is no probate court proceeding, eliminating the notification requirement for disinherited individuals. This absence of a court process makes it significantly more challenging to dispute the terms of a revocable trust. Securing Your Legacy Succession planning with a revocable trust provides control, flexibility, and protection for both the business owner and their beneficiaries. By securing financial stability and continuity in business operations, even after the death of the owner, a revocable trust can be a valuable component of a comprehensive estate plan. Whether you are in the process of building your business or preparing for sale or succession, or planning your legacy, consider the use of a revocable trust to protect your family’s future with confidence.

November 4, 2024

Estates and Trusts

Estate Planning for the Newly Divorced Woman: A Critical Step Toward Your Future

Divorce is an emotional and often life-changing experience, regardless of whether it is amicable or contentious. For many women, especially those who have been married for years, it can feel like stepping into the unknown. As a newly divorced person, you may find yourself grappling with a whirlwind of financial, emotional, and logistical challenges. One crucial aspect that often gets overlooked during this transitional period is estate planning. After a divorce, the financial landscape shifts dramatically, necessitating an urgent need to review and potentially restructure your estate plan. Whether you had an estate plan in place during your marriage or are considering one for the first time, having a proper plan is essential to safeguard your assets, protect your children, and secure your future. Suffice it to say estate planning should be a top priority for newly divorced women. Update Your Will and Trust: Control Over Your Legacy During your marriage, your Last Will and Testament or Revocable Trust likely reflected decisions made with your former spouse in mind. After a divorce, these documents require a comprehensive overhaul. One immediate change to consider is removing your former spouse as a beneficiary unless there are specific legal obligations, such as alimony or child support, that necessitate their inclusion. Additionally, if you have children, your prior will may have named guardians for them. In light of your changed family structure, consider appointing different trustees for the funds you intend to leave to your children. While your former spouse retains certain rights as a biological parent, your estate plan allows you to designate who will manage your children's inheritance if something were to happen to you.   Change Beneficiaries on Life Insurance and Retirement Accounts It is imperative to change the beneficiaries on life insurance policies, retirement accounts (such as IRAs and 401(k)s), and any other accounts where your former spouse is named. Accounts with designated beneficiaries pass directly to the listed beneficiary, bypassing the terms of your Will or Trust. Failing to update this information may result in your former spouse receiving these funds, regardless of your divorce. Many mistakenly assume that their divorce automatically revokes outdated beneficiary designations; however, this is not always the case. To ensure your assets are allocated to the correct beneficiaries, update these designations immediately. Consult your matrimonial attorney before making changes if your divorce is not yet final, as restrictions may apply. Revisit Powers of Attorney and Health Care Proxies An often-overlooked aspect of estate planning post-divorce is updating your powers of attorney (POA) and health care proxies. If your former spouse was named to make financial or medical decisions on your behalf, this designation should be revisited. While some states automatically revoke these fiduciary appointments upon divorce, others do not. Depending on your state, failing to update these documents could allow your former spouse to control your medical decisions and finances during a vulnerable time. Taking charge of this now is one of the most empowering steps you can take toward your newfound independence. Even if your state automatically revokes a former spouse’s right to act as a fiduciary under a POA or a health care proxy, it is imperative that you have a successor to act in your former spouse’s stead. As with any fiduciary role, you must appoint someone you trust: whether it is a family member, a close friend, or an adult child, someone should be appointed to handle these responsibilities should you become incapacitated. Planning for Your Children’s Future Divorce significantly impacts your minor children’s future—emotionally, financially, and legally. Although your former spouse retains certain financial and custodial rights, you can use your estate plan to specify your wishes regarding their upbringing and financial care. Consider establishing a trust for your children to ensure their inheritance is managed responsibly by someone you trust, particularly if you have concerns about your former spouse’s financial management. Appoint a trustee who will oversee the disbursements to your children over time, even if your former spouse is their guardian. Post-divorce is also a good time to reassess your life insurance needs. You may need additional coverage to ensure that your children are well provided for in the event of your passing, especially if you are the primary caregiver or breadwinner post-divorce. Protect Your Assets and Build a New Financial Legacy It is well-known that divorce has a disparate financial impact on women versus their spouses. Divorce often leaves the divorced woman in a starkly different financial position than what she had during her marriage. You may now own a home solely in your name, with the bills to match. Proper estate planning and consultation with a trusted financial planner provide you with knowledge and control over how these assets are distributed when the time comes.  Proper planning provides a platform for you to rebuild and protect your financial legacy for the future. If your spouse previously managed the family finances, it is not uncommon to feel uncertain about your financial independence. Even if you were the primary financial manager, your current financial landscape may differ significantly from what it was during your marriage.  Working with an estate planning attorney and a trusted financial advisor will help you get organize your finances, understand your current standing, and plan for long-term security. Moving Forward with Confidence Divorce marks the end of one chapter while opening the door to new beginnings. Though the process can be overwhelming, estate planning is an essential tool that offers clarity and control. By taking proactive steps now, you can ensure that your assets, loved ones, and legacy are protected as you embark on this new phase of your life. Partnering with a trusted estate planning attorney will guide you through this process, allowing you to focus on rebuilding your life with confidence. You have the power to shape your future, and estate planning is one of the most empowering steps you can take.

October 28, 2024

Elder Law and Advocacy

Elder Abuse Exposed: Understanding the Crisis and Lessons from Stan Lee’s Story

Elder abuse is a widespread issue that impacts millions of elderly individuals worldwide. It often manifests in different forms, including physical abuse, emotional or psychological mistreatment, neglect, and, most commonly, financial exploitation. Vulnerable older adults—particularly those experiencing cognitive decline, frailty, or social isolation—are particularly at risk. Among the most high-profile cases of elder abuse in recent years involves Stan Lee, the legendary creator of Marvel Comics. Understanding Elder Abuse Elder abuse can happen anywhere, including in homes, nursing facilities, or even public spaces. A common factor among these cases is that the abuser is generally someone trusted by the elder, such as caregivers, significant others, or family members. In fact, statistics reflect that nearly 60% of financial abuse is committed by a spouse, significant other, or family member. According to the World Health Organization (WHO), one in six people aged 60 and older has experienced some form of abuse in community settings within the past year. The actual numbers are likely much higher, as many cases of elder abuse go unreported due to fear or shame. Stan Lee: A Victim of Elder Abuse Stan Lee, the co-creator of iconic superheroes like Spider-Man, the X-Men, the Avengers, and many other beloved superheroes, passed away in 2018 at the age of 95. His final years were overshadowed by a deeply troubling elder abuse scandal. After losing his wife and advocate of 70 years, Lee's physical and mental health deteriorated significantly, leaving him increasingly dependent on others to manage his personal, financial, and creative affairs. Allegations emerged that Lee fell victim to financial and emotional abuse at the hands of his former business manager, who had become a trusted confidant. As with most elder abuse cases, the manager allegedly isolated Lee from his family and longtime associates, seized control of his finances, misappropriated millions in assets, coerced him into public appearances, and restricted access to family members and those who had supported Lee for decades. Furthermore, this manager even relocated Lee into a new home without informing his only child.  The Financial Exploitation of Elders Lee's case is not an isolated incident; financial exploitation is the most common form of elder abuse. While Lee's situation is noteworthy due to the unusual occurrence of financial exploitation among wealthy individuals with significant assets, elders of all economic backgrounds—especially those with diminished mental capacity—are at risk of manipulation and exploitation. In Lee's case, the exploitation was particularly egregious, given his status as a global pop culture icon with a multimillion-dollar estate. Although Lee experienced rapid exploitation within a year following his wife's death, most financial abuse unfolds slowly and subtly. It is important to keep in mind that this financial abuse can manifest as forgery, coercion in managing finances under the guise of assistance, or through more sophisticated and deceptive schemes involving multiple perpetrators. Sadly, statistics indicate that abuse and exploitation disproportionately affect elders with more modest means—those least equipped to handle economic setbacks in their later years. Alarmingly, nonwhite elders are particularly vulnerable, with reports showing they are 200% more likely to suffer from elder abuse compared to their white counterparts. Legal Protections and Reporting Cases like Lee's illustrate the urgent need for improved legal protections and reporting mechanisms for elder abuse. Although laws aimed at combating elder abuse exist, enforcement is frequently lacking. Most elderly individuals lack the capacity to seek help, which is often what makes them vulnerable in the first place. Alarmingly, those who might normally report such abuse are often perpetrators themselves. These factors, combined with the shame and fear associated with reporting, severely hinder the prosecution of these crimes. While many elder abuse units exist within law enforcement, significant gaps remain in the system due to a lack of resources and, from my perspective, a lack of empathy for senior victims.  What We Can Learn from Stan Lee's Story The tragic story of Stan Lee's elder abuse serves as a powerful reminder that even the most celebrated individuals can fall victim to exploitation in their later years. It underscores the critical need for planning ahead and vigilance from both loved ones and legal authorities to protect vulnerable elders from abuse. For those caring for elderly loved ones, staying engaged, monitoring financial activities, and advocating for their well-being is essential. Preparation for potential incapacity can also help prevent victimization. Aging loved ones should have the proper legal documentation in place, such as a Power of Attorney and Trust instruments, which empower them to designate trusted individuals prior to their incapacity. Proper legal authority and the appointment of reliable individuals in positions of trust reduce the risk of exploitation by bad actors. Preparing for potential incapacity can also help prevent victimization. Aging loved ones should have essential legal documentation in place, such as a Power of Attorney and Trust instruments, which empower them to designate trusted individuals before they become incapacitated. Proper legal authority and the selection of reliable individuals in positions of trust reduce the risk of exploitation by bad actors. Despite the flashy headlines of Mr. Lee's case, elder abuse remains a largely hidden crisis. Greater societal acknowledgment of its existence, coupled with stronger legal protections, will better ensure that our elderly population can live with dignity and security. Protecting elders from exploitation is a moral imperative that requires collective awareness, legal guidance, and action. Whether famous or not, senior adults deserve respect, care, and protection in the twilight of their lives, allowing them to age with dignity.

October 2, 2024

Estates and Trusts

Navigating NIL Deals: Why Estate Planning is Essential for College Athletes

As September brings students back to school across the country, college athletes are encountering new opportunities and challenges, particularly with the recent developments in Name, Image, and Likeness (NIL) rights. Now able to leverage their personal brand as a valuable commodity while competing at the collegiate level, athletes face a paradigm shift that requires financial literacy and strategic planning. This transformation has turned student-athletes into potential entrepreneurs, with their talents and popularity becoming marketable assets. One crucial element of a strategic plan that is often overlooked is estate planning, which can protect a student-athlete’s newly acquired assets and ensure long-term financial security. The NIL “Revolution” The National Collegiate Athletics Association’s (NCAA) decision to allow athletes to profit from their NIL rights has opened a significant and long-overdue financial door for college athletes. Now, they can capitalize on endorsement deals, social media partnerships, and even personal business ventures during their college careers rather than waiting for professional opportunities to unlock financial rewards. However, with these new earnings come added complexity. For young athletes, rapidly growing income and brand recognition introduce significant financial and legal considerations. Estate planning—often thought of as something for older individuals—becomes crucial for these athletes to manage their wealth, mitigate taxes, and ensure long-term security. Estate planning involves organizing how assets will be managed and distributed in the event of incapacitation or death. It typically includes creating wills, trusts, powers of attorney, healthcare directives, and implementing tax strategies. For college athletes, however, estate planning is not just about planning for life after death—it is about protecting assets, managing new income, and ensuring their families and loved ones are cared for in case of the unexpected. Why Should the College Athletes Plan Ahead? Asset Protection: NIL deals can yield substantial income, with earnings likely to increase as an athlete’s career progresses. A comprehensive estate plan helps protect this wealth from creditors, lawsuits, and other risks. Trusts, for instance, can provide a layer of legal protection, ensuring that the newfound fame and exposure do not lead to financial vulnerability. Trusts can also facilitate smooth transfers in the event of incapacity. Tax Efficiency:  Significant earnings from NIL deals can result in hefty tax liabilities. An estate plan can implement strategies to reduce tax exposure during an athlete’s career, into retirement, and beyond. Since tax laws vary by state, working with an expert can help athletes navigate complex tax requirements and avoid overpaying. Disability Planning: In high-contact sports like football, soccer, or basketball, the risk of injury is always present. Estate planning can include provisions for medical or financial decision-making in case of incapacitation due to injury. This ensures that a trusted individual is in place to manage the athlete’s financial affairs and act in their best interests, even if they are unable to make decisions themselves. Brand Management: For student-athletes whose personal brand significantly contributes to their earnings, estate planning can safeguard their image, likeness, and business ventures, even after their retirement.  A well-structured trust or corporate entity can hold and manage these rights, ensuring that the athlete’s brand remains protected and managed according to their wishes. The Foundational Elements of an Athlete’s Plan Last Will and Testament: The cornerstone of any estate plan. It outlines how assets should be distributed and designates guardians for any dependents, ensuring that loved ones and interests are cared for according to the athlete’s wishes. Trusts: Offer flexible tools for asset protection, tax planning, and managing income over time. They help avoid probate, reduce tax burdens, protect trust assets from potential lawsuits, and provide tailored terms for beneficiaries. Power of Attorney:  This document grants a trusted individual the authority to make financial and legal decisions on behalf of the athlete if they become incapacitated or even if the athlete is unavailable due to in-season travel, ensuring that important matters are handled effectively in their absence. Healthcare Directives: These directives detail medical care and treatment preferences and designate someone to make healthcare preferences and appoint someone to make healthcare decisions if the athlete is unable to do so due to injury or illness. This ensures that their medical treatment aligns with their wishes. Business and Brand Succession Planning: For athletes with substantial earnings from NIL deals, succession planning is crucial. This includes strategies for protecting intellectual property, trademarks, or businesses tied to their name and image. Proper planning ensures their brand and business ventures are preserved and managed in alignment with their long-term goals, even after death, to ensure that their loved ones reap the benefit of their brand well into the future. The Importance of Estate Planning in the NIL Era In the fast-paced and often unpredictable world of college sports, estate planning provides student-athletes and their families with a crucial safety net. As NIL deals continue to grow in both value and complexity, so too does the need for thoughtful estate management. Estate planning equips athletes with the tools to protect their assets, preserve their brand, and ensure their legacy both on and off the field. For any college athlete navigating the new NIL landscape, estate planning is not just a financial strategy but a pathway to long-term security and peace of mind for themselves and their loved ones. If you or your family are navigating the opportunities and challenges of NIL agreements, it’s worth considering a conversation with someone who understands both the legal and financial landscape. Candace Dellacona is available to discuss how estate planning can fit into your broader financial strategy, ensuring you’re prepared for the future.

September 17, 2024

Estates and Trusts

Estate Planning for Young Professional Athletes: A Comprehensive Guide

The Barclay’s Center in Brooklyn recently buzzed with the first round of the NBA draft — a gathering of young, exceptionally talented players hoping to be drafted to a professional team, the pinnacle and the reward for years of hard work and dedication. As young athletes, their focus rightly revolves around training, competition, and achieving a peak performance. However, it's also important for them to consider their financial future, particularly given the short average duration of an athletic career —only 3.5 to 5.6 years, according to The Bleacher Report. As a result, it is imperative that young athletes start off on the right foot immediately to protect their hard-earned assets, their potentially brief career, and their loved ones. While so many assume that the topic of estate planning is for an older demographic, beginning early can provide peace of mind and secure the athlete’s hard-earned wealth for the future. Why Should Young Athletes Consider an Estate Plan? Financial Security: While athletes can earn significant income early in their careers, the average professional athlete only earns between $362,000 - $680,000 per season, according to the Motley Fool. Proper estate planning is key to ensuring that the young athlete’s assets, whether substantial or not, are managed and protected, providing a stable and secure financial future beyond their career. Uncertainty of Career Length: The length of a professional athlete’s career is highly unpredictable. Injuries, even minor ones, can abruptly end a career or lead to being sidelined, benched, traded, or marginalized. Additionally, the physical demands of professional athlete’s training schedules and physical demands can diminish athletic abilities over time. An estate plan serves as a safety net in case of unexpected events. Family Protection: Many athletes come from families that have collectively pooled their resources to provide the support that propelled the young athlete to the professional arena. When athletes succeed, they often want to protect those who have supported them. The athlete is often relied upon to ensure financial security for themselves and their larger family of origin. An estate plan ensures that the athlete and their family are protected, especially if their career ends earlier than expected. The “Plays” of an Athlete’s Estate Plan Last Will and Testament: A Will is a legal document that outlines how assets will be distributed after death. It names beneficiaries, designates guardians for minor children, and appoints an executor to carry out the athlete’s wishes. Trusts: Often referred to as a Will “substitute,” Trusts offer more privacy, control, and flexibility over the athlete’s asset distribution than a Will. Trusts also help minimize estate taxes, protect assets from creditors and other predatory actors, and provide for loved ones in a structured manner. Power of Attorney: This document grants the athlete’s trusted advisor the authority to make financial decisions on the athlete’s behalf, especially during busy times like pre-season training. If the athlete becomes incapacitated, even temporarily, the Power of Attorney allows another trusted person to make financial decisions on their behalf. It's crucial for the athlete to choose someone who understands their unique financial situation and has their best interests at heart. Healthcare Proxy: Similar to a Power of Attorney, a Healthcare Proxy appoints a person to make medical decisions on behalf of the athlete if the athlete is unable to do so themselves. This ensures that the athlete’s healthcare wishes are respected when they are unable to make decisions themselves. Beneficiary Designations: Often overlooked, beneficiary designations on accounts direct who inherits the asset upon the athlete’s death. It is imperative that the athlete review and update beneficiary designations on life insurance policies, retirement accounts from their respective league, and other financial instruments regularly to ensure they align with the athlete’s Will, Trust, and overall estate plan. The Young Athlete’s Next Move: Assess Your Assets: The young athlete should start simple: list all their assets, including property, investments, intellectual property, and personal items. Set Goals: Determine the goals for the estate plan. What is most important? There is no one right answer: every athlete has different priorities, whether it be financial security for the family, a charitable cause, or minimizing taxes. Regardless of the goal, it can be achieved with the right plan. Consult Professionals: Avoid cautionary tales of athletes who engaged unqualified “professionals” (here’s looking at you, Tim Duncan.) Working with an experienced estate planning attorney, a competent financial advisor, and a skilled accountant will ensure a comprehensive estate plan structured and tailored to the young athlete’s needs. Regular Reviews: The life circumstances of young athletes change frequently. Being traded to a team in a new state with different estate planning rules, experiencing drastic income fluctuations, and evolving interpersonal relationships mean the estate plan must pivot to remain relevant. Regular reviews ensure the plan continues to reflect current circumstances. Estate planning can seem daunting, especially for young athletes just starting their careers. However, taking the time to plan now can provide significant benefits in the future. By securing their financial future, protecting their assets, and ensuring their loved ones are cared for, young athletes can focus on what they do best on the field, the court, or the ice.

July 12, 2024

Elder Law and Advocacy

Embracing Diversity in Senior Living

The Rise of LGBTQ Senior Housing As our society progresses towards greater inclusivity, the needs of the aging LGBTQ community have gained significant and deserved attention. One crucial aspect is the development of LGBTQ-specific senior housing, which offers a supportive and understanding environment for older adults who identify as LGBTQ. The importance of focusing on housing for the aging LGBTQ population cannot be overstated, as the challenges faced by this senior community often go unnoticed. Therefore, during this Pride Month, I am glad to shed light on why such communities are vital for fostering dignity and well-being among LGBTQ seniors. Understanding the Need for LGBTQ-Specific Senior Housing Historical Discrimination and Isolation: Over 800,000 elders reside in senior housing in the United States, with almost 8% identifying as LGBTQ. The number is likely higher, as many older LGBTQ seniors do not identify openly for a myriad of reasons. Most LGBTQ seniors have faced lifelong discrimination; one study indicated that 33% of seniors felt that they had to hide their sexual identity if they moved to senior housing. SAGE reports that a staggering 48% of same-sex older couples applying for senior housing faced discrimination. In addition to discrimination, SAGE also reports that LGBTQ seniors are twice as likely to live and age alone compared to their cis-gender peers. According to AARP, this isolation is often because LGBTQ seniors are twice as likely to live and age alone and four times less likely to have children, an essential support network for seniors. Dedicated LGBTQ housing helps mitigate these concerns by providing a space where residents can live openly and authentically, preventing the isolation that forces many back into the proverbial closet as they age. Health Disparities: The American Psychology Association has found that LGBTQ seniors are disproportionately affected by physical and mental health conditions due to a lifetime of unique stressors associated with being a minority. The cost of healthcare for LGBTQ seniors is also more costly as they do not enjoy the same health insurance opportunities as their cis-gender married peers. As a result, health insurance is more expensive. Additionally, the lack of cultural competency in the healthcare system means that LGBTQ elders are more likely to delay getting the necessary care, treatment, and prescriptions, often resorting to emergency rooms more frequently than the general population. These factors, combined with a lack of familial support, can significantly impact the health of LGBTQ seniors. LGBTQ-specific housing with built-in care, which is the model for all senior housing, helps to even the playing field and mitigate these disparities. It provides LGBTQ seniors with access to healthcare providers who are properly trained and familiar with the unique issues that impact LGBTQ seniors at a greater rate. Safety and Comfort: Members of the LGBTQ population often create families of “choice” rather than blood relation due to historical discrimination and rejection by their families of origin. As a result, LGBTQ seniors heavily rely on aging friends and non-biologically related caregivers. Additionally, LGBTQ seniors are more likely than their cis counterparts to be HIV positive and have complicated medical histories, particularly as they age. According to a recent study published in the Journal of the American Geriatrics Society, the combination of non-biologically related caregivers and complex medical needs places LGBTQ seniors at a significantly increased risk for mistreatment in later life. As their health and capacity decline, their partners and chosen family pass away, and the complications of HIV status (including HIV-related dementia) or neglected health issues increase. This study pointed out that even with limited information available, 22.1% of LGBTQ adults over age 60 reported being harmed, hurt, or neglected by a caregiver, 25.7% reported knowing someone who had been mistreated, and over 60% had experienced psychological abuse. The figures are startling and understandably cause concern among LGBTQ seniors about encountering prejudice from both staff and fellow residents. Having an LGBTQ-focused senior facility will ensure that residents feel and are safe, even if they lack the capacity to advocate for themselves. Properly trained staff will create a safe and welcoming atmosphere where all residents can feel respected and valued. The Good News in LGBTQ Senior Housing Thankfully, LGBTQ senior housing developments are incorporating inclusive design principles and services tailored to the needs of LGBTQ seniors. These facilities feature gender-neutral bathrooms, staff trained in LGBTQ competency, and events celebrating LGBTQ culture and history. SAGE has spearheaded this movement with its National LGBTQ Housing Initiative, which helps identify safe housing options for the LGBTQ population. Prominent Examples of LGBTQ Senior Housing: New York City: Stonewall House in Brooklyn, named after the historic Stonewall riots in Manhattan’s West Village, is known as a “beacon of inclusivity.” This development provides affordable senior housing in NYC, with a mission to offer a strong sense of community for LGBTQ seniors. Los Angeles: The Triangle Square Apartments, the first affordable housing project for LGBTQ seniors in the U.S., is a unique and pioneering initiative. It offers a variety of amenities and support services tailored to the LGBTQ community, exemplifying societal progress and inclusivity. Recently taken over by the Los Angeles LGBTQ Center, its commitment to the community has been further enhanced. Philadelphia: The John C. Anderson Apartments in Center City is an affordable housing development that provides not only housing but also integrates social services and community activities designed to meet the unique needs of LGBTQ seniors. Senior housing is more than just a place to live; it is a haven of acceptance, dignity, and support. As awareness of the specific needs of LGBTQ seniors grows, so too will the number and quality of housing options available to them. By continuing to advocate for and invest in these communities, we can ensure that LGBTQ seniors enjoy their golden years with the respect and care they deserve. Embracing diversity in senior living not only enriches the lives of LGBTQ individuals but also strengthens our society as a whole.

June 21, 2024

Estates and Trusts

When Athletes Stumble: The Perilous Pitfalls of Financial Scams and the Simple Legal Mechanisms to Stop Them

In a world where reputation is paramount, athletes often stand as symbols of hard work, determination, wealth, and success. Despite their celebrity, they are not immune to the snares of financial scams. Take, for example, the LA Dodger’s own Shohei Ohtani’s former interpreter, who pled guilty just last week to bank and tax fraud after admitting to stealing more than $16M from the Dodger’s phenom. It drew to mind the NBA’s own Tim Duncan, who lost more than $20M to an unscrupulous financial advisor, leading Duncan down a seven-year path of bad investment after bad investment.  From musicians (here’s looking at you, Billy Joel) to politicians and athletes to actors like Kevin Bacon, a victim of Bernie Madoff, the list of those who have fallen victim to fraudulent schemes is as diverse as it is alarming. In this article, we delve into the web of financial scams and explore why even the most prominent athletes at the top of their game can become ensnared. We will also offer insight into simple ways that others in their position can avoid the quandary in which Shohei, Tim, Billy, and Kevin found themselves. The Allure of the Scheme Scams come in various guises, each designed to exploit vulnerabilities and capitalize on trust. Whether it's a Ponzi scheme promising unrealistic returns, a phishing scam targeting personal information, or old-fashioned fraud, perpetrators often employ sophisticated tactics to ensnare their victims. The allure of these schemes can be particularly potent for athletes and public figures. With wealth and often hectic training and game schedules, many athletes entrust their financial affairs to advisors or hangers-on, unwittingly exposing themselves to exploitation. Moreover, the desire for greater returns or the fear of missing out on lucrative opportunities can cloud judgment, making them susceptible to manipulation. Trust Betrayed One of the most devastating aspects of financial scams is the betrayal of trust. In Shohei’s case, his translator, the person he relied upon to bridge language barriers, engage with the press, and provide the in-game interpretation that Shohei needed to perform, was the culprit, gambling away what many believe is more than $20M in total, $16M of which came from Shohei. For Tim Duncan, his financial advisor, whom he had trusted for nearly a decade, unwittingly involved Duncan in speculative investments and risky loans and took Duncan down with him. Busy athletes rightly place their faith in advisors, managers, and associates to safeguard their assets and guide their financial decisions. When that trust is violated, the repercussions can be profound, both financially and emotionally. The Power of Due Diligence While no one is immune to the threat of financial scams, athletes can take steps to mitigate their risk. Chief among these steps is the power of due diligence and having proper legal mechanisms plan in place to reduce exposure. By thoroughly vetting financial advisors and lawyers, conducting independent research, scrutinizing investment opportunities, and then creating the proper legal infrastructure of checks and balances, athletes can better protect themselves from potential scams. Financial advisors, as licensed professionals, undergo scrutiny to ensure their integrity. Their licenses are subject to review for any prior acts of misconduct. At large institutions, advisors face additional scrutiny from their compliance departments. Ensuring that client assets are invested properly, aligning with the standards of a prudent investor based on the asset amount, age, and relationship to risk. Licensing and infrastructure can go a long way to ensure that one bad actor cannot misuse funds.   Like financial advisors, lawyers also hold licenses and have their own areas of concentration. If an athlete requires legal assistance for estate and financial documents, most likely, they should consult a lawyer other than the one that drew up his playing contract. Instead, the athlete should turn to a lawyer who has expertise in properly drafting estate planning and financial documents that will insulate and thwart predators from penetrating the athlete’s financial assets. Trust the Process The level of protection that a properly drafted legal infrastructure to manage an athlete’s assets cannot be understated. Most estate plans for athletes and other public figures include one or more Trust instruments to accomplish this protection. Trust instruments, whether revocable or irrevocable, can own all types of assets; from the earnings of a lucrative contract to real estate to business ventures to life insurance, a Trust is the vehicle that manages most assets for athletes. First and foremost, when a Trust is created, it is private. There is no disclosure to the public or in the public record to disclose the identity of the Trust creator. A Last Will and Testament, for example, is a public record that can be viewed and reviewed by any member of the public. Trust assets are held and distributed without notice to anyone other than those authorized in the Trust instrument. Upon the athlete’s death, their estate is likewise distributed without an action of the court or notice to the public. The bequests that the athlete makes in his Trust can also be made in further Trust to protect the athlete’s family members from the same financial vulnerability they may have faced during their lives. It Takes Two When a Trust is created, the role of the Trustee is vitally important to protect the athlete from wrongdoing. As the name implies, the Trustee must be trusted. The Trustee’s job is to manage Trust assets, make investments, and distribute income and principal among countless other financial transactions related to Trust assets. Many of my public figure clients are inclined to appoint their closest friend or a family member in this role for their rightful fear of exploitation. While often these relationships are the most trusted, these individuals may lack the necessary skill set to effectively manage such significant assets and stave off financial scams and opportunistic predators. For those with significant assets like athletes and other public figures, having more than one Trustee appointed in this capacity may make sense, requiring that they act jointly. For practical purposes, appointing two Trustees requires two signatures, two sets of eyes, and two individuals reviewing transactions. Simply put, an act of fraud is much harder to commit when two Trustees are involved. When two individuals are appointed, the most trusted person together, with someone with the financial acuity, can work as a team to ensure that the athlete does not fall victim like so many who came before them. Leave it to the Professional Choosing the right Trustee to execute the athlete’s wishes and oversee their Trust assets typically requires a professional with the expertise to navigate the complexity of significant net worth. Given the complexities involved, including tax considerations, intricate investment vehicles, and corporate structures, an independent corporate Trustee is often necessary. A corporate Trustee is not an individual but rather a financial institution, such as a bank or investment firm, that assumes the fiduciary responsibility of managing a Trust. Athletes often hire corporate Trustees for their professional experience, financial acumen, and legal knowledge in trust matters, qualities that a trusted family member or friend may not possess. Hiring a corporate Trustee to collaborate with the athlete’s trusted family member or friend provides an additional layer of protection against financial misconduct. This partnership ensures that the athlete’s assets are safeguarded and minimizes the risk of unchecked financial mismanagement that could occur with the sole reliance on one individual. The Road to Recovery For those who have fallen victim to financial scams, the road to recovery can be long and arduous. Beyond the immediate financial losses, there may be legal battles, reputational damage, and emotional trauma to contend with. The prevalence of financial scams is a stark reminder that no one is immune to deception, regardless of their stats on the court or stature in pop culture. Shining a spotlight on financial scams and sharing personal experiences like those of Tim and Shohei can help raise awareness, potentially preventing others from suffering a similar fate. Thoroughly vetting professionals and ensuring that athletes or public figures have the proper legal documents in place can help to avoid a similar fate.

May 15, 2024

Elder Law and Advocacy

Aging in Place: NYFSC’s Home Sharing Program Offers a Unique Housing Solution for NYC’s Aging Population

The housing crunch in New York City is real. Exorbitant rents and climbing interest rates have led many further into debt, all but ruled out homeownership for most, and forced countless seniors to reconsider their plan to “age in place” in the space they have called home for decades. New York City’s Foundation for Senior Citizens (“NYFSC”) may have a solution in its established “Home Sharing Program.” What Is It?: NYFSC’s free Home Sharing Program has been in existence for the last 30 years. Its mission is to help link senior or adult “hosts” with unused private spaces in their homes or apartments with appropriate adult “guests.” The hosts and guests share their abode and the related expenses and perhaps forge a friendship along the way. The only age requirement is that both must be over the age of 18, and either the guest or host must be 60 or older. How Does It Work?: The NYC program (and similar programs in other cities) has a comprehensive screening process to match hosts with the right guests. Social workers provide a formal intake to screen applicants to consider lifestyle, work schedule, and collective needs for socialization. The host and the guest must have three solid professional recommendations and endorsements to ensure they are suitable candidates. The housing coordinators also assist with negotiating home-sharing and financial specifics to ensure the arrangement works for both parties. What are the Benefits?: Home or apartment sharing can provide homeowners and tenants additional income by renting out spare rooms and space. This is particularly helpful in expensive cities like NYC with high housing costs. The cost of long-term care is multiplying each year. Likewise, the guest’s contribution can ensure that a senior who no longer can afford to reside in their home can remain now that the guest is sharing the carrying charges of the home or apartment. Similarly, guests who find themselves out of options due to unaffordable rents might be able to find the perfect housing arrangement in a neighborhood that they thought was out of their reach. In addition to the obvious financial benefits, coordinated housing can foster a sense of community by connecting people who may not have otherwise interacted. When they work well, such arrangements can lead to the formation of relationships and mutual support between hosts and guests. This is particularly useful for seniors who tend to become more isolated as they age. Beyond companionship, there is a real opportunity, particularly in NYC, for cultural exchange and a richer understanding of different lifestyles and backgrounds, which can, in turn, contribute to a more diverse and interconnected community. In addition to building community and an exchange of cultures, an intergenerational arrangement may provide both parties the opportunity to give and receive advice from someone who is further on in life. Learn More: Certainly, this option is not for everyone, but perhaps it is an option that might work for those who wish to age in place as they age. For more information about this program or similar programs in your town or city, contact your local county office on Aging.

January 31, 2024