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What to Expect When Meeting with a Family Law Attorney for the First Time

attorney meetingIf you are contacting a family law attorney for the first time, your head is probably swimming with questions and concerns. As an attorney with over a decade of experience in family law, I understand that this first meeting can be extremely intimidating. Here is some insight into what to expect at your first meeting with me.


To begin, most people I meet with likely have never hired a family law attorney. I understand that you are coming to me at a difficult time and that what you are telling me is intimate. I promise to treat what you tell me with the respect it deserves and to keep it confidential. I also will not judge you. As your lawyer, I cannot change what happened before you came into my office.


The first thing I will do is ask you to tell me your goals. Your answer helps me learn more about you, sets the tone for our meeting, and the advice I will give you. Then, I will ask questions to illicit important background information from you. I want to know about your family, your finances, and, if it is a divorce, what assets you have. It sometimes helps to bring paystubs, tax returns, or a list of your monthly expenses to the meeting.


Next, I want to hear your story. I need you to be honest with me about what happened to bring you to the point where you feel you need to hire an attorney. After hearing your story, I can then explain how Maryland law applies to the facts of your specific case. I can provide you with handouts explaining the process and what factors are considered in cases where there is a request for alimony, child support, or custody.  Although I will provide you with information tailored to you, you are welcome to take notes during the meeting. Sometimes it can be helpful to have a document to refer to after we meet.


Once I understand your goals, your background, and your story, we can discuss a strategy for moving forward. I will give you multiple options to choose from, and we can weigh the pros and cons of each option. You can ask me a lot of questions. No question is silly, and I will answer all of your questions honestly. You are more than welcome to ask me about my experience and qualifications.


Finally, I will talk to you about what it will cost going forward. I cannot give you an exact amount from start to finish, but I will tell you how billing and payments are handled.


My goal for all first client meetings is that you leave with a better understanding of the law, process, strategy, and expenses involved with your specific needs. I have found that these first meetings can alleviate some of the anxiety you have and allow me to take on some of your burden. Hiring a family law attorney is never a fun experience, but it does not have to be a terrible one either. Finding the right attorney sets the tone for your case and gets you one step closer toward your goals.


If you have family law questions, please contact us.



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